my girlfriend and I have been together for more than a year now (13 months) and she has Bipolar disorder. The first month we went out she told me she used to cut and has some scars, and about a month later i found out she still cut. Once she cut my name into her leg. I saw it and said nothing. Last night my band played a show in Queens, NY. After our set we were all outside packing our van, when she came out and stormed into my car and slammed the door. I ran and opened the door to see what was wrong, she was crying hysterically and had bent a piece of metal from a cigarette tin to try to cut herself. I took it from her then calmed her down. This morning I woke up and saw "I hate.." carved into her wrist. I really have no idea how to handle this anymore and I would appreciate any info from you guys or suggestions. I would like any info, stories or suggestions you guys have concerning cutting and bipolar. Thx.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. Is your girlfriend on any meds or seeing a dr.? I really think she should be. I only ever cut once and I totally forgot about it until I read your post. I don't even know why I did it, upset, sad, helpless, I guess. Please try to get her some help. It sounds like she has a bunch of stuff going on in her head that needs to be settled down. Thats all I can offer. Good luck to you and her. Please let us know what happens.
hi....i also have bipolar and am a cutter....started in jr high some 30 yrs ago or so....stopped for years, then started again when i was going through divorce....it's a tough thing to stop....i've also just found out that 2 of my daughters friends cut (they are 15 yrs old)....in most cases, its not done with any intentions of death, rather a weird sort of defense mechanism....not that that makes it any more acceptable....i'm not sure if i can mention this on this board (if not, i totally appologize to the moderators) but there is a self injury section through this health board...that might also give you some insight....best of luck to you and your girlfriend...
I am also bipolar and a cutter, among other things. I agree with the previous suggestions for counseling. The cutting is something I have struggled with for many years. Really a poor coping mechanism. Stress can definitely bring it on. It can kind of be addictive, as well, so having someone on your side such as a doctor or counselor can really help.
Does your girlfriend want to quit? It's a difficult thing to struggle with, even if you don't like that you do it.
sinsNneedle (7:19:59 PM): you are so selfish,
sinsNneedle (7:20:43 PM): if you really loved me you'd want to stay by me until i get through this which i will instead of pushing me away like everybody else ****ing does
hxcarlo2hx(7:21:01 PM): im tryimg
sinsNneedle (7:21:13 PM): how? by making me feel worse
hxcarlo2hx (7:21:23 PM): im just speaking how i feel
shes 'sins' and shes been in a deep depression the last couple of days and i cant take it amymore