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Old 08-08-2005, 12:48 AM   #1
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please help ...

hi all!
My bf has not been dx'd with bp but I have been told that it sounds like he does have it, that's why I'm posting here =0)
He is 20yrs old now. He was hospitalized when he was 16 because he tried to take his life. This year, on Tuesday July 26th, he was hospitalized again because, among other things, he was delusional, paranoid, and had not eaten or slept in several days. He was immediately put on medication and was released by the following Monday. He was under doctor's order's to continue taking Zyprexa and Depakote. He decided on this past Thursday night that he did not want to take his medication anymore because it made it hard for him to concentrate, think clearly, and drowsy. He seemed fine for the next day (besides for the fact that he was talking ALOT) and then I went to visit him today and he started talking about weird things again (like he was before he was put in the hospital - only not as much). It almost seems like he knows how to control it in a way. He puts on an act for some people and then he tells his thoughts and feelings to the people he is closest to (myself and his sister). He's getting paranoid again as well.
Tonight was his first night back at work and he just called his sister crying because he was depressed, scared, and paranoid.
I know he's frustrated, scared, and on an emotional rollercoaster. I feel like I don't know what to say to him... Is it normal for his emotions to be cycling this quickly - about 3 hours ago he was HAPPY???
Any feedback, similar experiences, advice... whatever - please!!!

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Old 08-08-2005, 04:13 AM   #2
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Re: please help ...

You poor thing! I can't imagine what it's like to be on that side of the situation as I'm the one who gets to have all the "fun" (mania). My husband has been throught it with me like that. At 29 I was hospitalized for the first time for being up and not eating for about 8 days--and being VERY FAR out there. I was put on Depakote and Respiradol and took these for about a month and convinced my psychiatrist to gradually reduce the dose of each until I quit a few months later. These meds can make you feel incompetent and lazy and I personally never got used to them. Like your boyfriend I still tell my husband and closest friends my real views and act 'normal' to get by in the 'real' world. I believe that some of the psychoses we have are doorways to other parts of reality that our society is so uncomfortable with we've trained ourselves not to see them. Compare his "weird" ideas to ideas held by more mystical/spiritually based cultures. As for advice, I don't really have any other than get yourself some support and try to find a psychiatrist AND an alternative medical person for him who might be more receptive to his thoughts. If you don't know anyone like that, maybe look up an acupuncturist and ask for their suggestions. Good luck and much love to your boyfriend and you!

Old 08-08-2005, 06:29 PM   #3
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Re: please help ...

Well, he's found religion and wants to learn all about it... that part I'm not too worried about... His weird ideas, however, are just that. More like he's paranoid (i.e. they kept me in the psych hospital b/c i know too much and the government wanted to watch me... they might even have given me truth serum).
He just doesn't want to take his meds but he said that he would because the people he is closest to (me and his sister) want him to and think it would be the best for him right now. I feel for him. I wish that I could share it with him - take 1/2 of what he's feeling so he'd feel a little bit better at least. *sigh* In the meantime, I'm trying to get as much information as I possibly can. It's more frustrating that he doesn't have a dx yet so we really don't know what to do. I think it's more frustrating to be feeling this way and know why, than to be feeling this way and have no clue what the heck is going on.

Old 08-09-2005, 09:21 AM   #4
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Re: please help ...

he is so lucky to have a great friend like you to worry enough about him to seek out help on a message board. i defintely believe in my honest opinion that you might want ensure him that you are looking out for his best interest and the taking the meds will help him... once he gets the meds in his system..he will (hopefully) feel that he still feels like himself...just less paranoid/edgy.

i wish he could see how much you care about him. {{{{hugss}}}

good luck~

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Old 08-10-2005, 11:14 AM   #5
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Re: please help ...

Thank you

He's back on meds and yesterday was great talking to him... however, because he is feeling better - less paranoid etc. He thinks that he got better himself, rather than the medication helping him get better. He said that everyone except for his dad thinks that he doesn't have to take the medication. I think it's because when he is on the meds he seems more like he was before he had this episode, and so they think the meds aren't helping and that he just **magically** got better. Just 2 days ago he was depressed and now he is feeling better. grrrrr I don't know. I'm going to tell him that I think he should take the medication until he talks to his doctor again. I've even contemplated taking time off of work to visit his doctor with him. I don't think it will be possible, but it would be nice. I've asked his sister to go with him next time since he trusts her completely.
Still no dx though =( They have him taking Zyprexa and Lamictal instead of Zyprexa and Depakote. (IMO) I'm thinking that the medications are pretty clear indications of a dx without having an MD give a piece of paper that says "dx = bipolar." Maybe I'm wrong.

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