I think my wife has bipolar disorder (please help) - Family & Friends of the Mentally Ill Message Board

coddylove · 03-21-2006, 05:15 PM

love my wife a great deal but half the time she is yelling at me and
screaming how unhappy she is and how much she wants to leave me and it
really hurts and then 2days later she will turn around and cry on my
chest late at night telling me how much she loves me and that she will
never leave. the other day she said that she wanted a divorce. Then
the next day we were groccery shopping and she was touching me and
smiling at me and acting as if nothing had happened and then this
morning we ran into another problem and then she just started yelling
again saying tht she is tired of giving me chances. Trying to talk
calmly with her is almost impossible she blows everything out of
proportion and arguing with her is like arguing with a wall there is no
sense of logic. like i said before i love her and don't want to loose
her but i am really hurting right now.

seriousperson · 03-21-2006, 10:45 PM

If you have the patience, which it sounds like you possibly do, keep in mind that when she says she wants to leave, what she really means is that she desperately wants you to beg her to stay. It's up to you to decide if you want to be in this kind of relationship. She could have hormone imbalance, bipolar, or any one of a dozen other problems. I hope you are able to get her some help; she probably wants to divorce herself. I'm divorced 16 years and was once that kind of wife.

bpd_bipolar · 03-22-2006, 09:26 AM

I used to be married, it lasted for 5 years. There were a lot of factors to it, but he had no disease and I have BiPolar and BPD. I am not sure how he put up with me. I wasn't on the right meds and it took a toll on each of us.

You need to be strong and no matter how much you want to give up, if you love her and it seems you do, then get her to a doctor and get her help. Along with medication and therapy things will be better than they are. Go to therapy with her if you want, get counseling........it will take some time, but you guys will be oh k.

Good luck and I hope the best for you guys.

SecretAgent2 · 03-30-2006, 01:48 AM

It doesn't necessarily mean your wife has bipolar. Has something been going on to trigger her? Have you done something? You mentioned she said she is 'tired of giving you chances'. Did you do something to upset her? Affair, lie, etc.? If not, maybe she has a hormone imbalance. Maybe she doesn't know how to communicate her feelings and gets to the end of her rope and blows. Sounds like some counseling for you two may help. Also the counselor would see signs of bipolar if they thought she had it. Does she go manic and can't stop doing things...and then other times get really depressed and do absolutely nothing? That could be bipolar. If she's just blowing up at you maybe she has an anger problem, communication problem, hormone problem, etc. Try to go to couples counseling. Good luck. Sounds like you love your wife. She's lucky to have you.

ThornyRose · 04-04-2006, 04:05 PM

Oh my gosh, when I read this, it made me start to cry....I am the same way. I don't know how many times I have told my husband to not let the door hit him in the A --on the way out, screamed at him about how much I hated him, told him he was worthless, and the list goes on. I wish there were a magic wand that could change all those outbursts, but unfortunately there isn't. Until they find the right combination of drugs, you may have to endure this. Does she go to a support group, or therapist? You may need to see one for yourself as well. I was once married to an alcoholic, and they told me at that time that the ten step program can be used for any circumstance. Maybe it can help you. I know, for myself, I could tell when the "moods" were coming, so I would go out for a long drive and listen to the music I enjoyed the most in my car, or I would go in the country, and take a dead limb, and smack the heck out of a dead tree. Believe me, it worked. You might want to try it sometime. Good Luck