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Old 05-03-2006, 09:25 PM   #1
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11 year old daughter- just found out has bipolar

My husband and I were just told a week ago that my daughter, who is 11, has bipolar. I'm so lost I have know idea what to do. My husband is not her bio dad, it seems he doesn't believe in bipolar disorder or just has an issue with her. He can never just ignore her "smart" comments, like her counseler suggests. He gets angry, ends up yelling, then she will go into a complete rage.

I have ordered two books so I can try to understand it better. But I know he won't look at them with me or even want to hear what I have to say about what I have read.[/FONT]

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Old 05-04-2006, 04:15 AM   #2
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Re: 11 year old daughter- just found out has bipolar

Before you do anything, educate yourself on the symptoms of these illnesses. Then pick an appropriate time when you can quietly discuss your concerns with this person. Explain why you believe you daughter should be screened for depression or bipolar disorder by comparing their behavior with the symptoms. Encourage her to seek help and resist the urge to function as a therapist.

Reassure her that you are having this conversation because you care about her and want to help her feel better. Remind her that she's not alone and that things can get better. Gather information for her to help her make a decision about consulting with a professional skilled at treating depression and bipolar disorder. Most of all, be supportive and caring

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Old 05-04-2006, 11:04 AM   #3
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Re: 11 year old daughter- just found out has bipolar

My own daughter just turned 12. I am BiPolar.

I tried to get her "seen" a year ago. Before her mother copped to an affair, and then the divorce.

She met a MALE therapist exactly once, and then refused to return ~ to see ANYONE.

If I might ask ~ are they employing any "meds" with regards to YOUR daughter ?

Good Luck !!!

Old 05-09-2006, 07:34 PM   #4
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Re: 11 year old daughter- just found out has bipolar

If your daughter is bipolar, consider her lucky to know so soon. Many children are misdiagnosed, though, so educate yourself on the symptoms and keep an eye on her moods.
If she is bipolar, she has the opportunity to learn to manage her illness as it develops. Encourage her to keep a mood journal, in which she can write anything she wants about the way she feels. This will be very valuable to her in the years to come as she learns to understand and manage her own unique cycles.
I would be very careful with any meds given to a prepubescent, because brain chemestry is not fully developed until the hormones activate at puberty.
Meditation or prayer can be very helful. Start teaching her now how to find the calm in the center of her storm. Then she will always have a safe place to return to; her higher power, God or whatever brings your family strength.
Good luck and remember if she really is bipolar, she is very lucky to know she has it at this age and to have her family to help her.
Remind your husband that bipolar people have a very high potential for extreme success. And with the right help and support, the extreme sensitivity bipolar gives her will be a bonus and not a deficit. But without that help and understanding, believe me, being a child with bipolar is a terrifying and humiliating experience. If she doesn't gain an understanding of the symptoms of her illness, she could grow up like myself and many others; feeling weak and ashamed when unable to control our emotions. I spent my whole childhood fighting the mood swings with pure force of will and of course losing, thinking I was a bad person every time I failed. It would be worth all my suffeing in that regard if one more bipolar child doesn't have to grow up that way.
Good luck and stay strong.

Old 05-11-2006, 07:55 PM   #5
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Question Re: 11 year old daughter- just found out has bipolar

Thank you so much for replying. I do have eher in therapy. There are times she goes in alone, or my husband and her go together, or all three of us go. Sometimes, by husband and I go in alone to discuss things about her, just so I can have the therapist explain things to him as he doesn't always believe me!

Did it get any easier as you got older?

Old 05-14-2006, 06:02 PM   #6
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Re: 11 year old daughter- just found out has bipolar

I'm very impressed with your understanding of your illness. It's so hard to get people to see those advantages at any age. Hurrah for your mom who made you go to therapy!

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