HELP!!!! My husband reverts to being 13yrs old alot. and im pregnant - Family & Friends of the Mentally Ill Message Board

autyhensley2008 · 05-01-2008, 07:28 PM

My husband was mentally and physically abused and now he is 20 and is acting nothing like he use to. He is suffering from depression, phycalogical breakdown, and something else. but mainly they said its all due to the father. He talks to things that aren't there, he is really a control freak yet most of the time he just follows me like a puppy. They(the doctors) said that what is happening is when he gets stressed he reverts back to when he was 13 years old and living with his mother. Right now he is being held in the phyciatric unit under observation and right now i have no idea what is going to happen to him. they are holding him for 7 days and then we see whats going to happen but I am pregnant and living with my mother cause we cant afford to get our own place yet. I am 6 months along with a little girl. I know he cant be left with her with him acting like this I just dont know what to do. I know that I cant make him get better and I cant just wait for him to get better. but i love this man more than life itself but i have to think of my daughter. I dont know what to do Like i do not want to turn my back on him. I really love him we got married young he was 17 me 18 and now we have been together almost 3 yrs. and We have had our ups and downs. I keep thinking about how he was then and how much he has changed since then he has just gotten hard to live with. On one hand I want to just let him go but on the other hes my husband and I love him but it is just really really hard I dont know what to do my hormones are running wild and my husband cant hold a job with the way he is and i dont know what to do...someone please can anyone give me advice please...thank you

auty

hopetofeelwell1 · 05-04-2008, 05:43 PM

Hi Auty! I just passed by the board and saw your post. Your poor husband seems so overwhelmed to begin with and maybe with the new baby coming it's putting his anxiety and depression over the edge, causing him to regress. Is it possible for you to speak with his doctors to have a family meeting and tell him he has to take meds, go for counseling, and take responsibility for himself? The doctors have to understand that you have your hands full right now, being an expectant mother and you yourself need a support system that you can depend on, even if it's outside of your birth family by going to counseling yourself. It seems your husband is obsessive and that's probably part of anxiety, trying to control everything to make himself feel better. I'm sure he's a good person who has been to hell and back and somewhere underneath all this he is worth helping. Hopefully the psych docs will stress to him that in order for him to be a helpmate in the marriage, he has got to help himself. I will pray for you, your husband and your daughter that good health is restored and peace of mind will return to you. god bless and take care--Hopeto--