My husband's mania - Family & Friends of the Mentally Ill Message Board

nannie8 · 07-21-2008, 02:10 PM

Hi everyone,

I'm just wondering if it is normal to dread and be afraid of my husband's mania? He is depressive with episodes of mania (is on medication, but sometimes he still has episodes.)

He never hurts me physically...in fact when he is in "manic mode" as I put it, he is extremely cheerful, energetic and silly. And it freaks me out...I'm not sure why. I don't know what I'm afraid of or why I dread it. I almost prefer when he is low...at least I can have a normal conversation with him and he is able to focus.

This hyper manic cheerful state really puts me on edge. It's not that I don't want him to be happy, but this just seems false and out of control.

Any thoughts?

Thanks.

cinemachick · 07-26-2008, 08:45 PM

I think it's okay to dread mania. I know my husband gets edgy if I get manic, whether I happy or bratty. I want to get therapy for the both of us so he knows how to handle me when I'm manic. Maybe a good suggestion?

I wouldn't want my husband to go through moods of extreme happiness, it would just plain freak me out.

fearruth78 · 08-05-2008, 04:30 PM

Oh my god!!! I feel at the end of my tether, with exactly the same probs with my hubby!!! He is going through a manic episode at mo, and also I feel freeked out. I just came on the net as a last ditch attempt to try and find someone who can understand what I'm going through. I can talk to friends and fam but no one understands unless they live with the person. I also prefer the down periods, because as you say at least you can have a decent conversation with them. From what you said your hubby sounds very much like mine. I've been waitng 5 years for a diagnosis, and his meds are always being changed, which also make things really hard. Please get back in touch as it would be great to be able to talk to some one who understands. Ruth x