Pregnant with Borderline Personality Disorder Fiancee
i have been in a relationship with a bpd 31 year old man for one year now. he has not been professionally diagnosed, but my therapist has helped me to come to this 'neighborhood' of disorders... we moved in together before i knew that he had this disorder. we also got engaged as soon as his divorce came through last february. he rages when he gets upset and has repeatedly thrown me out of our place, sometimes even in the middle of the night in my pyjamas. he threw me out last friday and i haven't been back. i am staying with my sister and trying to resist going back because i am pregnant. he knew this when he threw me out, and regrets it now and is constantly asking for me to come back. he is binge drinking, not sleeping and living kind of recklessly to sum it up. when we were together, he was abusive financially, emotionally, psychologically and even sexually. i have pointed all of this out to him, and explained that i now need to protect our baby and can't go back. he claims that through his therapy, which he just started for the first time in his life 3 weeks ago. that he is due to be diagnosed soon, and he seems to think that he will be recoved from this disorder before our baby arrives in january. can you please explain to me how long the average person with bpd takes to get it under control? Also, is there medication involved? Finally, is the abuse part of the disorder, or should i be steering clear from now on?