Help! I don't know what to do!
Okay, here's the situation. My girlfriend is bipolar, and she's 28 weeks pregnant. She's had a rough pregnancy. She's off of most of her medication, and she won't go to a psychiatrist because she's afraid they'll take the baby. We've been together for almost 5 years now. She wasn't diagnosed until about 4 years ago, before that she had a lot of trouble. Even after diagnosis, it took a long time to get things right. She worked very hard, and they got her on the right meds, and she was able to be the sweet, wonderful person she can be. However, this pregnancy has been a nightmare.
First, we had a plan to get a place together and everything was going well. Well, then she decided she didn't want to move in. Then she completely screwed up her finances, so I paid her rent a few times and her car payment at least once. I constantly bought her food and groceries. I'm not sorry that I did any of that, and I'd do it again. However, it severely reduced the amount of money I had, and basically made it so that she couldn't contribute financially at all. All of this I was okay with. It's going to take some doing, but I'm confident that we'll still get it all worked out. Then this past saturday, she freaked out on me and is having what I believe is a full blown bipolar episode. Now, she says that she wants me just to give her money, not to talk to her, and she might let me be there for the birth. She's completely irrational, going so far as to make things up just to hurt my feelings.
Now, I understand that she can't help it. I'm not mad at her about any of this, it just hurts because I know that when she's properly medicated, she's the most awesome person in the world. I do not abandon relationships because they are difficult. I knew this could happen, and I was willing to do this anyway. I'm in this for the long haul, but I'm really having a hard time with this, and don't know what to do.
Any suggestions/insight would be very, very helpful.