Son won't take meds
I have a 21 year old son that was diagnosed with bi polar almost 2 years ago. The first episode he manic and then he became depressive and was cutting himself and felt suicidal. He was placed in a treatment facility for 3 days. Released with medication (abilify and trazadone) and Dr. appt. I wish I would have kept records of dates, but I think he did this for a month or 2. I'm not sure how long he took his meds or if he ever did, he told me he didn't like the way they made him feel and didnt want to take them. He had to drop out of school that semester and didn't go back the following semester. He got a part time job and lived at home. He had a 2nd episode. Again cutting himself on his wrist. I took him to emergency room, where they baker acted him and sent him to facility. He hated the facility, he couldn't wait to get out and he did not want to be compliant with his medication. We took his car away and told him unless he followed Dr.'s orders he wouldn't get car back. He went the summer without a car. We got him to a Dr. whom he seemed to like, he put him on lamictal. We allowed him to go to college in the fall without a car and with an agreement he will follow the Dr.'s orders. He never followed dr.s orders. He did complete the semester successfully. At this point my husband and I hoped that possibly the bi polar was a misdiagnosis, that possibly drug use and puberty and growing up was the cause of his problems. Spring semester he ended up flunking out. He is now home working 2 jobs successfully for the last 2 months. Recently, I was able to get him to see a new Dr., this one is the Dr.'s PA, but she is well respected in our area. She prescribed him Equetro. It's been a month now and 2 appointments and 1 therapist appointment and he just told me he never even started the medication. He just went to Dr. to make me happy. He said I am just wasting our money. He doesn't want to try any drugs or go to therapy. He says he can manage this on his own. I spoke with the Dr. or PA rather, she said she thinks he is very sick and needs care. I should even consider a marchment act to make him get help. But the last 2 times he was hospitalized it didn't help anyway. My husband is not in agreement of a marchment act or making him go to the Dr. He believes he is now an adult, he's 21 and he has to want to help himself. I on the other hand, cannot sleep, I am sick to my stomach with worry about him. I somewhat agree with him about the medicine, it's hard to know what works, are all the side effects worth it, sounds like even when bi polar patients are on it they still have episodes anyway. So, if he feels he can function without it, should I let him continue to try?