Dealing with husband with mood disorder / manic episode
We have been married for 38 years; about six years ago at the age of 55 my husband was diagnosed with major depression, ADHD, anxiety; he took antidepressants for about 1.5 years but then they stopped working and for another year he tried various meds, without success. Now he will only take Ritalin for his ADHD, no other meds. Two years ago at the age of 55 he had his first manic episode that lasted several months; afterwards he went into a deep depression. He was diagnosed at that time with BiPolar 1; he did not accept the diagnosis, and would not take meds. He just recently had another manic episode that lasted for a few months; he is now calm, but still has some delusions. He has thrown me out of the house, will not talk with me except an occasional short email where he asks a question. He plans on divorcing me; says I am the cause of all of his problems, he feels I am the one who is sick and needs medical help. He says that the stress of taking care of me over the last two years has caused him to have this manic episode. I have read it is very common for a mentally ill person to blame his loved ones for everything. This has been very painful to deal with. I understand it is his illness causing him to act in this manner, but he will not accept he has a mood disorder and has turned his back on me, He has grown children (and grandchildren) that he hasn't spoken to in about a month. He has found new friends and it appears that they are his family now....part of his new life. He is with them everyday, all day long and into the night; one is a 20 year old male, a 39 year old male and a couple in their 50s. Any thoughts or advise on how to deal with this situation would be greatly appreciated. I have no plans on filing for divorce, but if he goes through with it, I have no choice but to accept it. I would hope that he stabilizes and we can work through this. But I don't know if that is even possible.