Just a quick post to vent! My adult son (age 25) refuses to work, clean house, pick up his own mess, mow the yard, take off the trash, and most every thing else.
My own mind says he is just milking his illness. Sure, he may very well be VERY sick and can not help it. But, he does finds ways to play with his friends.
I am getting so fed up with being his butler, maid, and keeper. I would put him on notice that he needs to secure other housing but the wife stops me flat out.
Whoa whoa whooooa there. First off, what illness does he have that he's "milking". I think he's just a lazy boy and needs someone to kick him in the *** and give him a dose of reality. He's a big boy, I say ultimatum. Stay very firm. Time for him to grow up. I'm 23 and when I lived with my parents I earned my keep out of respect and thankfulness I have for them. It was awfully nice they let me continue to live at home for free while I continued my education (college). As for your wife, what would she do if you did do something? Does she not see it?
Last edited by frisbeefreak; 11-10-2011 at 07:32 PM.
Just to let you know, this was just a rant. I needed to vent badly.
Here are a few details: My son is 25 years old. He is a US Navy veteran with 4 years of service. He has been diagnosed with depression, PTSD, and possibly bipolar. His mother is bipolar.
During his high school years he was a “A or B” student. He excelled is areas like math and computer science.
During his Navy service he excelled and was promoted to e-5 in less than 3 years. This is almost unheard of in the military.
Because of his military service he has a “full or complete” scholarship for college. Heck, they even pay him to go to school. Yet, he has not been in school since December of last year.
One detailed rant goes like this: I came down hard several months back about being extremely messy. His main reply is or was if you will leave me alone I will get it done. I did this for 1 month. During this time period the mess got no better and maybe got even a little worse. I have a bathroom in my own house that I have not used in 2 years. It is a total mess. I would describe it as it would make some SICK.
Now: He lives like this. He claims to be fearful of germs. Well, I’d say he must be lying because I am not and I can not get close to his toilet. Not even to mention the other sections of his bathroom.
It was so bad that the indoor dog needed a bath (his bath has the only tub) and he was not home. I went in there and would not give my dog a bath in that tub.
I LOVE my son and want the best for him. I still believe in him. I mean I think he can do better. Sure, he will have to try a bit harder than someone without a mental illness. But, I know he can. He was brought up right with morals, ethics, and manors. He was and is gifted in music. So, all in all I see him just giving up. It makes me sick!
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Mudhound
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I am getting so fed up with being his butler, maid, and keeper. I would put him on notice that he needs to secure other housing but the wife stops me flat out.
is your wife willing to be his butler, maid and keeper, or does she just expect you to do it, keep a smile on your face and not complain??
there are 2 problems here.....1 is your son, the 2nd is your wife....
what's she doing to help solve the problem?
