Bipolar and Employment
I posted a few months ago about my boyfriend, who has bipolar. I've come here now with needing some assistance/advice.
My boyfriend doesn't have the best job history... not necessarily by fault of his own. I think dealing with bipolar, as well as an unwanted divorce, didn't help things. He has been unemployed the last three years, and was taking care of his sick mom until she passed away in December.
He is trying desperately to find a job. He lives an hour and 40 minutes from me, in another state, and is looking for jobs in my area (so he can move up here). He wants to have a purpose, wants to work so he can provide for me whenever we get married... but I don't think he's heard back from ANYTHING. I've sent him jobs for months to apply for... first things he had experience in (TV stations, newspapers, web-savvy jobs) but broadened to things like office workers and retail, like Walmart and Staples.
I am at a loss. I know the economy SUCKS right now, so even people with shiny resumes and no employment gaps are having trouble... but is there anything else? I don't think he's willing to go the restaurant/food service route, but other than that I don't know what else is out there. Are there are any companies, organizations, types of places that would be sympathetic to someone with a varied work history and 3 (going on 4) year unemployment gap? My SIL helped make his resume look good despite these issues, but it's like employers aren't giving him a chance. It's like the only thing standing between us and engagement is a job, and it doesn't seem like that may happen any time soon.
I'm trying to be positive, trying to be trusting that God has a plan... but it's hard. Especially when said boyfriend does things like spend three hours trying to fix a computer issue instead of using that time looking for a job! Not to say he can't do other things... but I wish he'd treat job searching like a FT job. Maybe it's his bipolar, maybe his personality. I don't know.
Okay, kinda off-topic, but I've noticed something about him. He is OBSESSED with dogs (pet dogs, anyway). Like his last dog, who passed away 10+ years ago... he talks about her a LOT. And then him and his dad are getting a new puppy this Sunday, and he is SO excited about it. Which I can understand, but it seems a little excessive. Like he's more excited about this puppy than about seeing me. I feel bad about being a little... jealous? about a puppy. But is this common with people with bipolar? That they have a focus like that?
Sorry for being rambly just have a lot on my mind...