Originally Posted by BFMV1723
Honestly I don't know what to do anymore. I love this guy so much and I can tell he loves me. He's had this disorder ever since he was born (it runs in his family and his mom did drugs while he was in the womb) but he's super smart and an amazing guy until he does what I said above. I don't know how I need to bring it up to him.. I don't wanna lose him, I wanna work things out and talk about all of this with him, but I'm scared he'll overreact if I bring it up or he just won't see it how I see it and say he's doing nothing wrong. I wouldn't know what to do!
I know exactly how you feel. For months my ex would tell me he loved me. He said he was in love with me, I'm his soulmate, we are meant to be, we are going to get married and have children together, etc. I was in love with him. I would have done anything for him. I gave him so many chances! I didn't want to lose my ex. I'm still in complete shock. The problem with these people is that they can change their emotions and feelings quickly. For months he is telling me these things and the very NEXT day he is saying he doesn't love me and is finding somewhere else. I saw him everyday for months. It goes from that to never seeing him again. What I'm trying to say is I would tell him how you feel and see his reactions. How does he treat you? Do you guys argue a lot? Does his words match his actions? Is he taking his medication? Will he stay on his medication? I'm in therapy right now for this. It's very hard to be in a relationship with someone that has this illness. You have to know his intentions and see his reactions. I believed my ex and loved him so much. My heart is in a million pieces now. I have to pick them up and move on. You have to be honest with yourself and see if you can be with this man for the rest of your life. Can you trust him? Does he lie to you? Towards the end my ex lied to me all the time.
Please take what happened to me into consideration. There were so many red flags for me, but I was completely blind sighted by love. All I wanted to do was to work things out. All I wanted to do was make excuses for his behavior. I'm not saying he is like this, but please watch any warning signs, or red flags!
I'm here if you need someone to talk to. Like I said I'm still in complete shock. It's very hard for me now. I put my heart and soul into this relationship and now it's over. He ended it through text message! He told me he would never break up with me. He couldn't see himself with anyone else. They were all lies! Just be very careful! I hope things work out for you!