Originally Posted by Thisby
Man, I wish I knew the answer to that one. I'm in a somewhat similar situation with a friend. It's hard to know if I should let him know I think he's just being paranoid/delusional and should get help, or let him think I'm 'on his side' and just agree with him.
I usually talk to him about how it makes him feel and suggest he see a doctor or someone so he feels better, while avoiding the actual details of what's upsetting him (his paranoid delusions).
Anyway, for now I've decided to humour him. There is no benefit in telling him I don't believe his nonsense - none that I can see anyway. But I don't let him go on too long about his theories, because there's no point in that either. I try to ask him what he's going to DO about it and that usually stops him and then I try to encourage him to see a doctor. (He hasn't been institutionalized yet.)
Question: is he medicated? And was he okay for a while between these two incidences? I mean, was there a period where he acknowledged that he wasn't being rational and that he had a problem?
Yeah he was alright between the two incidents. I just figured the first incident to be stressed related and didn't make anything of it.
And yes he has been taking medication since the first incident. He says he doesn't like it, though, cause it drains him mentally and physically. And he doesn't have the energy or will power to go to the gym or play sports anymore, which he says makes him feel even worse.
He is conscious of his irrational thoughts but says he can't control them and that they overwhelm him. He lives in a country where mental health isn't taken seriously. He's an American though. I was hoping to maybe convincing him to go back home or maybe even come to Canada and get treated here. But I really have no idea what the Canadian system could do for an American.
Anyways, I'm digressing. The point of my thread was to get some advice on how I, as a friend, should approach him. I want to help him as much as I can, but at the same time I don't want to facilitate his irrational thought processes.