How my family handles Social Anxiety Disorder - we need some tips
I am trying to learn more about anxiety disorders. I apologize for the long post. I occasionally suffer from mild anxiety.. but I am more worried about my brother.
Everyone in my family is shy, but I can tell my brother's anxiety has gotten so bad that he has a hard time interacting with me, or anybody. He cut off ties with all his friends years ago, so I know he has nobody to talk to, and he completely avoids us (his family) whenever we are home. He is in his 20's and also suffers from epilepsy, and has had numerous, "embarrassing" siezures in public, which I'm sure is a huge factor in his anxiety.
The problem is, as much as doctors and everybody else encourage him to seek treatment, he avoids getting the help he needs and doesn't even take medicine prescribed for him (for anxiety or epilepsy, even though he said they work he doesnt like them). When my parents have talked to the doctors and psychologists he's seen, they get the impression that my brother acts like he's fine to avoid having to receive a diagnosis. He's still in denial..
I try to be understanding, but he barely talks, so it is difficult to have a conversation with him, so I never get a chance to really know what's going on.
I know he needs some help, and I fear his condition is getting worse and worse.
My parents have good insurance, and have spoken to doctors and made as many suggestions as they can, but the last psychologist my brother spoke to (3 months ago) told him there's nothing wrong with him. He later bragged to me about it, like he won a competition. He hasn't seen any doctors since. We've also since noticed he's been experiencing occasional hallucinations (hearing things, smelling things, etc that arent there).
I just can't figure out a way to help my brother anymore. I can't just sit and wait and hope he eventually realizes he needs treatment/medication. I think he needs somebody to talk to, yet he has such a hard time talking about anything. I've attempted to have innocent conversations with him, but that leads nowhere. He shuts down as soon as I ask him how he's feeling. Why does he fight so hard to show he's OK? I fear his anxiety is causing all sorts of problems, and fear where it could end up. When will it end?