Hi, my wife was diagnosed with depression many years ago and prescribed medicine but won't take it as it makes her feel ill, so it has come and gone for years and have been battling with it. We have a young family and, everything is getting to her and making it worse, and she still is in denial about having depression and will not do anything about it. Her thinking is I am the reason for her unhappiness and gets defensive and becomes irrational when I try to talk to her.
Her negativity and failure to appreciate the good things is really wearing me down as the symptoms I discuss and point out to her get thrown back at me, in like a retaliation. This is the irrational part as some things said back at me are ridiculous, and don't make sense. Every time I try to lift her mood it backfires into an argument, around in circles we go again. Occasionally I have a chance to talk rationally but gets forgotten about not long after, she inaccurately remembers conversation. So it gets very frustrating, and I don't know what to do?