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Old 11-29-2012, 05:43 AM   #1
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Depressed Spouse

Hi, my wife was diagnosed with depression many years ago and prescribed medicine but won't take it as it makes her feel ill, so it has come and gone for years and have been battling with it. We have a young family and, everything is getting to her and making it worse, and she still is in denial about having depression and will not do anything about it. Her thinking is I am the reason for her unhappiness and gets defensive and becomes irrational when I try to talk to her.
Her negativity and failure to appreciate the good things is really wearing me down as the symptoms I discuss and point out to her get thrown back at me, in like a retaliation. This is the irrational part as some things said back at me are ridiculous, and don't make sense. Every time I try to lift her mood it backfires into an argument, around in circles we go again. Occasionally I have a chance to talk rationally but gets forgotten about not long after, she inaccurately remembers conversation. So it gets very frustrating, and I don't know what to do?

 
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Old 01-30-2013, 04:54 PM   #2
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Re: Depressed Spouse

I know how you feel. My husband suffers bouts of depression and can be so difficult to live with you. Unfortunately, like your wife he denies that he is down the dumps - he always says it's me! Them not being able to see that they are down in the dumps makes it so much more difficult to deal with. I also have a young family and my husbands moods are wearing on me too. We have been married for 12 years and it seems to affect me more than it did before, I can't seem to get over his moods so quickly.
I'm sorry that I have no advice to give you, but just wanted to know that I know how you feel. Only wish I did have the answers, for the sake of my children!

 
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