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Old 04-30-2013, 01:47 PM   #1
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Is it possible to be depressed and not know it

Hi Everyone,

I have been taking my mom 73 years old to the doctors for various behavior and personality changes. I was thinking memory issues possibly beginning stages of dementia. She repeats herself, is very withdrawn and no longer social , loses track of her finances but also she is living on a fixed income. She hoards food, says she is hungry one minute, says she has no appetite the next. She tells stories, lies, all kinds of issues we haven't dealt with before.
She went to the neurologist today and answered half the questions wrong, but when he asked her them again she got them correct. To me this told me she had trouble answering them, the doctor thought she did great and said she is depressed with anxiety. She doesn't feel like she is depressed. He said well you aren't driving and you are stuck in. She is not driving because she was in 4 minor accidents. Even back when she was driving she was showing all of these symptoms, so saying she is depressed doesn't seem to fit.
Anyway, my question is for those of you living with depression or living with someone who is depressed do all these symptoms fit? He said if someone told you 6 things to remember and your wife called to say your son is sick and dying you will forget 3 of those things. If you are then being chased by an animal you will forget the other things, anxiety causes depression and all of this would cause her to show these type of symptoms.
If someone asks you the date would you answer april 30, 2020? Draw a clock with the time being 40 after 3 and would you draw 2:55? 60 nickels is how how much money? 300.00 1st, 30.00 2nd and finally the correct answer of 3.00? Does depression affects your brain that much?

Thanks for your help.

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Old 05-01-2013, 10:57 PM   #2
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Re: Is it possible to be depressed and not know it

Yes, it's definitely possible to be suffering from depression and not recognize it especially at that age. She's 73, there could be many things going wrong with her, depression among them. I wouldn't count all her symptoms as depression though. Her doctor should be doing more to figure out what else is going on with her.

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This does not sound like depression as much as possible dementia. I would take her to a different neurologist, ask for testing, and if she lives alone, start thinking about how safe she is with remembering to turn off stove, fix herself decent meals, and care for herself independantly. Many people with dementia benefit from medication specifically for it, but the earlier it is started, the better the effect and chance of helping. Lying in this setting is generally not malicious or intentionally deceitful, it is a cover-up of the forgetfulness and an attempt to fill in the blanks in the person's mind and memory, or just a state of confusion about the facts.

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