Re: Girlfriend raped as child, Need Advice
Yea as far as I'm awear she has had no psycological treatment
We agreed to end our discussion about it earlier today,
Essentially this is what we both feel and understand about it
Her heart wants it, but her body isn't ready
However my heart isn't ready because I know she's not ready, but my body is,
I asked her what she would do if she felt ready and she said "just do it"
I ended up having to briefly explain the process of foreplay, and she said she can't do that
She thinks that having consentual sex might change her opinion towards it
So at this stage we've decided that when I feel she's ready (or she "attempts" to do something sexual) I will just ask her.
I still don't think that this is right, but as far as the conversation is concerned its a compromise, she believes that if she says stop I will stop (but I don't trust myself to do that)
She says that she is more comfortable with me touching (not sexually) her body that she is herself
I love her, and the last thing I would want to do is make her hate herself more,
I'm fairly certain that her and I will talk about it in depth again before anything happens anyway, and I don't see the topic arising anytime soon. Wether on not i think she's ready I will still wait until after her life gets easier (there is a lot of bad stuff happening for her right now - as strong as she is I believe her when she says if she didn't have me she'd breakdown - I would go into details but that really would deserve a thread of its own)
The following hasn't got too much to do With the thread but if anyone's interested in or relationship keep reading
Our relationship isn't exactly 'normal' but it most definitely is stronger than most
We've only just started kissing each other even tho we've been dating for more that 3 months. She's done so much for me and she doesn't even realise it,
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