Re: Adoption. Have Any parents been through this?
My DH and I are nearing the end of our domestic adoption process. We started in July of '05 with an informational seminar. We went to the agency and one of their adoption social workers met with us and told us all the highs and lows of adopting and also answered any questions and addressed any concerns we were having. We then submitted our application for adoption in Sept. We were on an initial waiting list for a year and then were called to start our homestudy, the homestudy process took about 6 months, but could have happened a lot quicker. Our social worker is amazing and was willing to work with us at our own pace, thus the 6 month homestudy. After the final approval we were put on the official waiting list of possible adoptive parents, which is where we are right now. Any day now we could get a call that we were chosen and are to come get our baby. Some things to consider with our situation, we are adopting a new born, so it will take longer, we live in an area where adoption isn't as popular so the waiting time is considerably shorter than in some areas. We were told that in New York, you are basically approved and the draw for adoptive parents is about like a lottery. In our case the birth parents read over our bios along with any other possible adoptive parents and then makes the final decision based on that.
That's just a short over view, and there is so much info I could share with you. I'ld be happy to answer any questions you might have. Just remember that given where you live there will be some variance in the fine details of what you hear from other people.
I wish you the best of luck and I truly hope you can find that peace in your heart to take this leap of faith. I know for me it was hard to come to terms with and I was very hesitant. I had heard so many horror stories and didn't want to live one myself. But then I considered this child, he/she didn't choose to be born to someone who wasn't ready to take care of them, but they were blessed to be sent to someone who did care enough about them to do what was in the babies best interest. Keeping that in mind, I thought to myself I have all the love a child will ever need, and their birth parents had all the love they did to choose adoption for their child.