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Old 10-03-2003, 01:37 PM   #1
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Question anyone ever thought about adoption?

Hi,
I am a 23 year old female with Polycystic Ovaries and I have had 2 major back surgeries. I don't believe it would be a very wise idea for me to ever get pregnant with my bad back. My husband and I have decided to adopt a baby from China! We are overcome with joy!!!
I just wondered if anyone else out there is thinking of this??

~Ali

 
Old 10-03-2003, 02:01 PM   #2
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My husband and I have had passing thoughts about it - spent 15 mos. ttc naturally, just had one failed Clomid cycle, getting ready for the second. No other issues, though, so it'll probably be a long time before any final decision comes along - we're both 24 years old.

One thing I was wondering - you mentioned that you're 23. Are there age cutoffs (too young/too old) on foreign adoptions from China (I know different countries have different rules). Also, do you need to have been married a certain amount of time?



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Old 10-03-2003, 02:52 PM   #3
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Yeah we have to be 30 before we can adopt from China, but we don't mind. We have already started a savings account to cover the expenses to adopt her. We are very excited about it and can hardly wait to bring our Lily home! And I believe you have to be married for at least 3 years, well, we've been married for 3 years already!!
Thanks for the response :-)
~Ali

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Old 10-06-2003, 08:02 AM   #4
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Congrats on your decision to adopt! I also have PCOS, and DH has low sperm count and motility. We adopted from Russia last year -- we chose to do this FIRST and then infertility treatments later. It was the BEST thing we ever did and our daughter is the light of our life. She was 6 months old when we adopted her and is now a happy, healthy 2 year old. I wish you much luck in your adoption plans!

Angela

 
Old 10-06-2003, 06:02 PM   #5
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I do think about adopting (ttc for 2 years now) but my husband is not mentally ready yet to even discuss it. I am 31 he is 28. I got information in the mail today that I had requested. I had no idea the costs were in the $30,000. This is the information I got from just one place, so I will research alot more before doing anything. I was shocked, but knowledge is a wonderful thing because I have decided to start our savings now so that if we still do not concieve in a few years and my husband is ready to discuss adoption we will hopefully be ready financially also Can you give me any information on the Russia adpotion maybe a breif descrption of the process and the approx. costs? Curious!!!

 
Old 10-07-2003, 08:00 AM   #6
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Hi Misof. We chose Russia for a variety of reasons. Mainly, we were too young to adopt from China, we liked the Russian process, and I LOVE the Russian culture. It's fascinating to me. Plus, we could adopt a young infant, which was important to us. Basically, with Russia you apply with an agency and the US INS, put together your homestudy and dossier (papers to be sent to Russia), then wait for a referral. Once you get a referral, you can have the child examined by a doctor in Russia, as well as send medical information to specialists here. Once you accept a referral, you receive a court date and travel to Russia for the court hearing. It's very straightfoward. Our entire process from signing with the INS to coming home with our daughter was 9 months to the day -- literally! The only thing is Russia is not cheap. It was approx. $30,000 to adopt our daughter. Worth every penny, obviously, but it makes it hard. A lot of the costs are travel-related. The good news is the US govt. gives a $10,000 per child tax credit, so you should eventually recoup $10,000 of your expenses. Good luck!

Angela

 
Old 10-07-2003, 03:31 PM   #7
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Angela, Thank you so much for responding. I will be starting our savings account now for our future. I am 31 and just after a year now, I am already tired of the shots, medicine, etc... I have been having to do. Thank you again for the information. I appreciate it.

 
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