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Old 12-18-2011, 12:27 AM   #1
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When do you say ''enough" & start thinking of about adoption

When do you say enough IF treatments, enough disappointments, enough already, and then decide to look into adoption?
We have been TTC #2 for a few years already and I just am just sure how much more disappointment I can take.

Can anyone share what their thought process for adoption was?

 
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Re: When do you say ''enough" & start thinking of about adoption

To me, the question is whether one wants a child to raise or to "have a baby." There is a difference. If you just simply want a child, then the answer is get the child - the simplest way you can. "Giving birth" is an entirely different question.

 
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Old 12-18-2011, 11:32 PM   #3
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Re: When do you say ''enough" & start thinking of about adoption

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To me, the question is whether one wants a child to raise or to "have a baby." There is a difference. If you just simply want a child, then the answer is get the child - the simplest way you can. "Giving birth" is an entirely different question.
Right, I was talking more so about having a child, not the being pregnant bit.

 
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Re: When do you say ''enough" & start thinking of about adoption

Well then, go get that child...there are plenty waiting to be adopted...and more every day.

 
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Re: When do you say ''enough" & start thinking of about adoption

mehappy: I truly understand how you are feeling. Nineteen years ago, I tried many different procedures to get pregnant. Nothing worked. Each month I felt as though another piece of my heart was torn off. I finally got to the point that I just could not do it anymore and adopted. My son is from Guatemala and nineteen years later, I still have no regrets. He came home to me when he was three months old and I found out a month later that I was pregnant!

 
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Re: When do you say ''enough" & start thinking of about adoption

Really I wouldn't look at it as an 'failure' and surrendering', I see it as an opportunity to give life a chance. There's already hundreds of thousands of beautiful children on this planet (from newborns to teens) that are looking for the exact opposite you are, parents. While it may seem like a disappointment that IVF didn't work, it could be a blessing in disguise.

I heard a story once about an adopted child that was asked to write a Christmas list -- he pondered on the subject for awhile then said "I don't want anything else, I already have all I could ever want". I like started crying as it really shows how much it means for this kids to be accepted into a family. It seems like something taken for granted, but there are people out there that will grow up and about 20% will 'phase out' (meaning they become adults before being adopted and never have the chance to grow up with a family).

Best of luck to you and all the best! :-)

 
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