Hi Pookah,
I can certainly relate to your dilemma. I have several disorders that cause chronic pain and I have cycled through a myriad of pain meds. I have found that they all have unpleasant side effects, some worse than others. Here's been my experience with some of them.
All the NSAIds (anti-inflammatories like ibuprofen, naproxen, etc.) cause stomach irritation, some worse than others. I can only handle two ALEVE a day due to having gastritis...taking with food helps. All the codeines (tylenol 3, vicodin, oxycodeine, etc.) make me sleepy and dizzy. However, for some strange reason, oxycodeine, even though supposedly stronger than vicodins were more tolerable and killed pain better. I quickly got used to half a tab and dizziness went away. problem is every doc I ever talked to insists I will become a drug addict if I stay on oxy's more than a few months. So I take them only prn.
Ultram has SSRI properties and if you don't react well to prozac, paxil or zoloft, you won't like Ultram. Pharmaceutical companies are marketing it as non-addictive, but they lie...it's just as addictive as oxycodeine and less effective. Ultram only killed about 50% pain, whereas Oxycodeine killed about 90%.
You can ask for roxycodeine or oxycontin, which is oxycodeine without tylenol and long acting oxy, respectively. Tylenol supposedly destroys your liver over long periods of time as does the NSAIDS.
Vioxx, Mobic, Celebrex, etc. did absolutely nothing for my pain, but made me so nautious I couldn't focus on pain, only on wanting to throw up.
Doxepin, which is a tricyclic antidepressant (not an SSRI) diminishes pain about 50% for me, but makes me sleepy first two weeks, then sleepiness wears off. However, then blurry vision and weight gain set in. However,
a low dose of doxepin and Aleve seem to work well together, with a minimal amount of side effects. You may be like me and be very sensitive to drugs and need lower than normal doses of these drugs.
As far as I'm concerned there are no really good pain killers without annoying and sometimes intolerable side effects. You can choose which side effects you can live with. And don't believe anything the pharmaceutical companies claim and don't believe your doctor if he's being snowed by a pharmaceutical salesperson...ask him what he thinks of pharmaceuticals claims to find out how gullible he is to their totally false studies and reports on these new drugs.
I don't really believe that the opiates and codeines are as addictive as they fear for people who use it prn, in moderation, for pain. However, only you know your drug-addiction propensity or tendency...everyone's different. Some people get addicted much more easily than others, then the drug stops working and can in fact make the pain worse as you are constantly in a state of withdrawal. Withdrawal symptoms to opiates can resemble FM and make you think you're getting worse. Good luck. Hope you find this helpful. Hugs, Cloie