Urgent question off FM topic need advice NOW!!! - Fibromyalgia Message Board

pain-intheneck · 11-08-2004, 06:38 PM

Hi I am a member of this board and have Fibro and can't really do much except work and rest, but my urgent question is my husbands friend just won an all expense paid trip to the playboy mansion, he really wants to go, but Im worried about what goes on there and don't want him to go, am I being unfair by not letting him go, he told me that if I don't let him he doesn't want to talk to me what do i do????

ginnyash · 11-08-2004, 06:52 PM

Hi,

I would not want my husband to go either and if he does not respect that then he is not respecting you. I have seen parties about that place and its nothing but woman dressed very sexy. I guess it also depends on how much you trust each other too. If you feel like he is very strong and would not act on anything, then let him go. But I don't many men are that strong. Good luck to you.
Gin

tam821 · 11-08-2004, 07:13 PM

well thats great he won, now first, I know there are bunnies there hopping around and all, but I dont think your allow to touchhhhhhh them if you know what I mean,...

did he win a trip there just to visit and look around, ??

I know fibro makes ya fell like "crap and all, but your hubby married you hun cuz he loves you

... no harm in letting him go "LOOK" around with his friend..

I think he'll love ya more for trusting him and letting him go..

If ya say no, gosh he will just be grumpy, and whine FOREVERRRRRRRRR, not too many people get to go there, so what the heck

and dont you worry ok, those girls there arent "giving it out to anyone"
they are there for looks only... and I think your hubby will be safe.

Id let mine go,

tell him have fun, but not too much and give him a smile

Icefire · 11-10-2004, 04:29 AM

I agree with Tam, if it were my hubby I'd let him go. My words to him are always, if I can't trust you out of my sight, then there's really no use in having trust at all. I have no doubt that my hubby loves me and would never do anything to hurt me. I've never seen a little harmless flirting hurt a marriage. I know if I had a chance to see the Chippendales with a friend, I'd be there. I always pick my battles carefully and I don't think this one is a big deal. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.

Chris

UT_mom · 11-12-2004, 03:14 AM

I just wanted to add that if it makes you uncomfortable, he should respect that! But keep in mind that if you were say, invited to go see the chippendales and it made him uncomfortable that you would respect that as well. I think that if it makes you uncomfortable and he goes anyway even if you say it's okay even though you're still uncomfortable then it's just going to come back again and again to bite you both. This is really personal, but applicable. My hubby was looking at internet porn, he didn't see any problem with it and still doesn't but after much marriage counseling he now realizes that even if he does not see anything morally wrong with looking... it devastated me and that makes it wrong for him if he wants to be in a healthy relationship with me. He respects my feelings and doesn't want to hurt me so even though I'm sure he misses the "looking" he doesn't now out of respect for my feelings.
I hope everything works out okay for the both of you!