Annie needs a shoulder to lean on and... - Fibromyalgia Message Board

wishn · 01-25-2005, 11:02 PM

please don't say I told you so. I'm sure many of you may recall a few months ago I was having a tough time with my "Screamer Boss." Believe me, I have wanted, attemped to search on...but after working 11 to 13 hours every day I am whipped and in pain...plus the stress keeps me insecure now. This job since October 2003 has completely changed my life. I have no life. Once my boss found out that I had fibro she mentioned to the VP, who I am friends with that I am now an insurance liability and since than she has done every thing mean to drive me out. Constant screaming and mental abuse. Believe me you could never imagine. I know I couldn't have. The funny thing is that everyone else in the company truly loves my compassion to look out for everyone, bring out a smile when their down....go the extra mile and have so many wonderful friends there. At our Annual Christmas party that I run, there were 10 case of 24 cokes in my care from shopping at Cosco for 100 + people....also the honeybacked ham store, etc. This was all done on my own. I wasn't able to carry the soda's in and asked if I could get some help. The comes out and starts yelling at me that this is my job and do not take her employees away from what they should be doing. I was just so tired after shopping all day with a $249 budget for over 100 people and make it unbelievable. Finally one of the guys said to Linda, you cannot expect her to carry all of that heavy stuff into the building. She said, well tell her to take one can at a time. He proceed to start taking them in and my wicked stepmother started screaming at me that I should have been faster on my feet. She was so angry that I didn't carry it in ....she figured payback was yet to come. Well it did....she gave eachof the people at the party a $100 gift cheque...how do I know...I followed behind her reminding her to give each person from my list a cheque and marking it off my list. All names were marked off but mine....she purposely didn't give me one. It was just hurtful. She said that I didn't deserve one because I took longer getting back to set up. The beltway was shut down in both directions, I called her and she didn't belueve during the middle of the day. I tried to make her understand there was very little you could do in one day with about 250 people on a 250 budget. She wanted sit down, meat, shrimp, sushi, cheese platters, fruit platters....veggies...desserts....stop my the honey backed ham store and rob a few hams or buy very small ones with the left over budget. All in all she did feel I deserved one because she was in one of those mental break downs. I had worked so hard 5pm until 12 mindnight and not one penny.

Please support me everyone and help keep my strenght.They are basically telling me I have two more weeks left. I will not resign, they will have to fire me. I have worked many late nights and never got paid. Linda is so bitter because i commented to a coworker who asked how I was spending it...that I didn't get one. Linda did not want that know that she had decided I would not get one. It got back to her and she went crazy

about it. She called me into her office and said she had something for me. I said no thanks and and she threw it at me and hit me in the face. I simply picked it up and said I'm sure my daughter will like this.

Well I'm getting sleepy

...another long and bad

feeling dayI have ahead of me....

corin · 01-26-2005, 02:35 PM

This is above and beyond anything acceptable for even "normals". She has physically assaulted you, and a report to the police is in order. Why fear for a job she is going to make sure you are removed from anyway. This is intolerable. Physical assault, demoralizing verbal abuse and intimidation are issues that need to be reported to not only her boss (there is always someone higher up!) but to the proper legal authorities.

twisten · 01-26-2005, 03:08 PM

I am new to this board but I do post in pain management and I just have to say I totally agree with the first poster. No one should have to work under that type of supervisor, boss, whatever you want to call her. She reminds me more of a tyrannical ruler. I definitely would report her and then look for a different job where you would be more appreciated. Does no one there stand up to her?? If not then I can see how she became that way. You definitely have my support, also my hope that you will see you are too good to be treated in this manner.

lillypad · 01-26-2005, 03:19 PM

Get an attorney and protect yourself with whatever laws cover you. Interestingly enough, in the US we don't have laws about bullying, harrassment is a different story. I encourage you to take it personally enough to get an attorney. I am assuming you have talked to your human resources dept. and filed a complaint, or several as is indicated and requested a job change so you won't have to interact with this awful human being.

wishn · 01-26-2005, 08:37 PM

Thank you all very much. Unfortunately she puts the fear in everyone and talks down, yells and belittles everyone. I know it must sound difficult to understand how people stay and deal with it... I have worked with it for over a year and don't understand myself in some ways. She does control the entire company and because it is a "small business"...and the one person who is suppose to help us (the person who has been on maternity leave ...HR) simply tells anyone who complains, this is how she is, this is how she's always been and will never change. She has admitted to me that the President is wrong and hateful...but does not want to lose her job. I went to work today and it was horrible. I have done so much for that company and worked so hard. I have picked up so much HR experience and not sure now if this was all worth the delay in getting out. The fibro has kicked in so terribly and between the pain and forgetting...it's only making things more difficult. My son who always supportive and understanding....apparently had something on his mind tonight when I called him. I was so down and sad and only really needed someone with a cheery voice, instead he snapped at me about getting my resume out there, etc...(Which I have)....I was so hurt and I don't think I could cry another tear. I'm sure something must have been bothering him, but I didn't know it and was just feeling a bit lonely. Thanks everyone for caring...it helps more than you could know.
Annie