Hey robin,
I think that your age is the main reason your atty is quitting your case. Hate to say it, my dear sweetie, but that's my opinion. He obviously feels he can't win for some reason, and I'd bet it's because you are so young. I'm not saying by any means I agree with this, I for one, would be the first to fan any SS building if it were on fire! LOL (as long as it were empty of course!) Same goes with some atty's offices! I don't like mine in particular, but hey, I'm only on my second go round. It's hard to find an atty, when all you usually have to go on, is the ads you see on TV or the yellow pages! I saw mine on TV, STILL see him on TV. Now I at least know where he is! LOL
I would still try to find another atty. There are millions out there. Also, check your computer resources. There are many sources of help out there that offer help for SSD cases, specifically FM cases, you just have to look. It's possible you can find an atty who practices nationwide. They are kinda like corporations who can represent you while not actually physically being in your state. Look for them. You have the resource, use it.
Good luck honey. In the mean time, check out Medicaid. It's state aid, but hey, that's what it's there for. Use it if you are able to. It's meant to help those who aren't able to work, can't find work for what ever reason, as far as food stamps, low income housing, and medical care usually for your children. Not sure about how to qualify for medical treatment covered by the state for yourself. They usually don't have a problem qualifying your children though. I worked with young mothers who had their kids on Medicaid. Nothing wrong with getting a little help where you need it.
Also, as far as your meds, a lot of big drug companies have a "needy meds" program where they will allow you free medication in some cases. Check out the Pain Management board, and there is a "sticky" post there that tells you all about the "Needy Meds" program. It's like one of the first two threads on the board I think. Good info there, I had no idea that you could get the meds you need from the very source that creates them. Check it out. Before that govt program gets cut!
Also, what about SOME kind of vocation where you could possibly learn a new job? Something that would be "workable" for you, given your condition? You could certainly qualify for free grants to go to school. I'm not talking 4 years of college here, but a vocational school of some sort. See if you can find something where you could learn a new vocation that may fit your condition. Just a thought.
The Independent Living thing sounds like a good idea also. I just think you have some options here, so don't give up. K?
Keep us posted. I know it's hard, and it seems like an endless fight, and it may take every ounce of energy you have, but we all try. We fail, we get denied, we get disappointed, but we go on, and we find a different road.
Love,
tk