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Old 11-08-2005, 12:59 PM   #1
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Doesn't it tick you off when people say there is always someone worse off?

Hello fellow members: I just want to vent, please. Doesn't it tick you off when people say there is always someone worse off? I feel for everyone in pain. Before you had pain did you ever think there was people in excruciating pain? Well at present I don't have pain meds because they have all ran out. I am in excruciating pain, from FM (the worst offender) spondylitis, severe degenerative disc disease, o/a in lower lumbar and knees, how much worse can it get? I cannot walk without holding onto someone. I have to use a scooter in a mall. Something which I dread because I look so healthy. I take my nightime meds around 3:00 in the afternoon, that is 3 diff anti depressants, 2 different muscle relaxants and a pain pill to knock me out. I am up around 2-3am each day, which really sucks, when the rest of the world is sleeping (part of it anyway). On the other hand, there a good decent people in here and I do have a good family, thank God. Ok folks, I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everyone's pain go away. Thanks for letting me vent. God bless

 
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Re: Doesn't it tick you off when people say there is always someone worse off?

Honey you vent whenever you need to. And hey, I'm on the computer quite often that time of the morning.
I too hate hearing others much worse off, even if there are. I try to remind myself sometimes that I have been in much worse shape when I was a kid. My father-in-law died of cancer so I know he was worse off, but just remember, even though there are those in some ways worse off that doesn't mean our pains don't count. We count, our pain counts, our needs count. No matter what about anyone else's health.
If you want it I'll give you my yahoo messanger or e mail for when you're up so early.
I kinda understand about the scooter. I hate it when I need one at the store. I feel like I'm giving in to it all and I have 2 friends telling me I should get my own. I have a friend that has had both her knees replaced twice and so has to use one, I hate how some people look at her in the store, I want to go up and just slap them. She's a bit overweight and I can see the little wheels turning in their little minds. When I get looked at like that I want to run over them with the scooter. Can you imagine a hit and run on aisle 5 in Wal-Mart? Sometimes just the thought helps.
Remeber that no matter what about anyone else, you matter and your pain is important. You might tell people who talk about others being worse, that to them they probably are and in some ways maybe but that doesn't detract from your problems.
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Re: Doesn't it tick you off when people say there is always someone worse off?

Still Going:

Yeah, I understand. It's usually the healthy ones that say such benign things to people in pain. They just don't understand. I like your handle: Still Going. Sounds like you are doing your best to do just that.

God bless you. You are having a struggle, and I feel such compassion for your situation.

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Re: Doesn't it tick you off when people say there is always someone worse off?

since i assist others in the process of dying i do not feel offended. there is an old saying. it goes. i cried because i had no shoes until i saw a man with no feet. being exposed to the people i meet helps me keep it real.
all things considered i feel fortunate to have the illnesses i have. sure it's hard sometimes. the past couple of days have been a real challenge. who will win, me or the pain? me. why? because in time the pain eases and i am still here. so i win!
my heart goes out to you. this is not an easy journey.
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Re: Doesn't it tick you off when people say there is always someone worse off?

No I would not like if someone said that to me, not because of what they say, but because of how they say it. The words 'there is always someone worse off' are true. I met a couple yesterday at my husbands chemotherapy and the gentleman had lung cancer not curable. So I would say my husband and I were better off because his cancer is 90% curable and this couple know they will battle this cancer for years to give them some more time together.

It is what is behind the off handed comments people say that is offensive. What is behind those comments is IGNORANCE plain and simple and that is what I find offensive. Like blue I have learned a lot through my journey and I am still learning. Unfortunatly for the ignorant people they think they already know everything and refuse to open their mind to new thoughts.

Hang in there stillgoing and keep an open mind.

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