Welcome Mr.Jay! You do sound like you fit in here. From what I've read, it seems to be more women that get FMS which is why you might be having some trouble getting a diagnosis. Do take the time to read the board and see the other posts, it should be quite helpful. Most people here see either a rheumatologist or a doctor who is board certified in FMS. My symptoms include: exhaustion,insomnia and non-restorative sleep(wake up feeling like I've been hit by a truck),headaches, irritable bowel,TMJ,shoulder and neck pain, lower back pain(degenerative disk),leg aches,balance problems,and many other symptoms, many of which come and go. It is definitely chronic and it has worsened in the last few years. I've recently had some success with feeling better after I've improved my lifestyle habits and started medication, the first step was finding a medication to help me sleep. It's a tough road and you're in good company here!
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