The advice I got was:
1. Leave information lying around. I found that my hubbie won't pick up the books but he will pick up papers so I print articles out and leave them lying near his recliner. The bathroom is another good place. Or his pillow/dinner plate if he doesn't catch on.
2. Take him with you to your doctor appointment. I would pre-warn my doctor that I was bringing a "non-believer" in and hope that she could chat for a few mintues with him.
Here are some things I tried on my own:
1. I waited till my husband got sick and was whining about how bad he felt and then I told him that I knew JUST HOW HE FELT because I had headaches,leg aches,fatigue and chills almost every day.
2. I've also purchased massage oils and enlisted his aid in massaging my aching muscles (occasionally I give him one too). He LOVES giving massages
so I get pampered and he gets happy. The massages really do help and he has noticed the knotted muscles and tender area's. The oil is a must, it doesn't work as well with lotions. He actually can feel a difference in my muscles now on my bad days, so I think he's a little more understanding.
3. I have tried to complain a little less and just ask for help a little more. My husband is a typical man and will tune out my whining but will happily(sort of) help if I tell him that I will fold the laundry if he carries the 5 baskets up from the basement because "I'm trying to cut down on steps". If I start with "my legs are killing me and no one ever helps out around here, I've been up and down these steps a million times today........" I do NOT get a positive response. It takes practice though, it's much easier for me to complain.