Frustrated - Fibromyalgia Message Board

Creeping Crud · 01-26-2002, 05:24 PM

I am a real joy to live with.. I just snapped at my fiance' because I was trying to explain something, he interrupted and I couldn't remember what I was going to say by the time he got done talking.. Ordinarily, it wouldn't have been that big of a deal, but it's been one of those "foggy" days.. I feel like my head is swollen and my brain is surrounded with cotton and everything is so much more difficult: thinking, moving, talking, even typing.. My memory and my mind is shot, my patience is gone and I am an emotional wreck.. Everything just feels so surreal.. I've tried sleeping it away, I've tried eating it away, some days all I can do is try to cry it away.. I don't mean to be so crabby with him, but I just get so frustrated when I can't think straight.. Has anyone found a way to make things less foggy??

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~pain and suffering are inevitable, but misery is optional~

korken · 01-26-2002, 06:27 PM

Don't be upset with yourself or him. Just sit down and write out some foundations on what you need him to be aware of when you give him the word that your in a fog. Like no interupting you. Remember what you said so if you forget he can help you by telling you what you need to know so you can stay sane.
He must understand what you are going through totally. Maybe he sould read this board and also ask q's. Understanding his needs as well as yours when FMS rears it's ugly head in needed by both of you. Don't forget to write it down and talk to each other communication is key in any relationship. This kind of relationship is special and it is a necessity to understand both sides and the future of you.

Hope this helps.

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Take care ~Kim & Gary~

babygerald · 01-26-2002, 06:59 PM

I whole heartedly concur with Kim. I get angry sometimes with my wife, sometimes for such small reasons, but especially if Im not being understood because I cant get the words out before she responds. I know she doesnt mean any disrespect; she picked up the habit from her dad, who is sometimes quite hard to talk to. I mean, you'll say something like, "Boy, this or that was really astonis--" "Yes! I know, bloody hell..." and he'll go off on his own, carrying the whole conversation. I find that if I am patient (both with myself and my wife) and if she's understanding that I need some extra time to catch those fogged up words, then we can have a good conversation. I find that slowing down my speech, and carefully picturing the words and the sentence structures in my head, helps significantly in the coherence category.
As for being crabby, my wife has come to expect it, and we both treat my oft unpredictable mood swings with copious amounts of sarcasm.

Be well,
Ric

la_brat · 01-27-2002, 02:49 PM

Our youngest daughter had brain fog for about six months with very few times it would lift during the six months. Her rhuematologist is trying to find some medication that will get her to sleep well. Her biggest complaint is the fatigue. It's been two years and no luck, yet. There are many more medications to try. You will notice I said had brain fog. Chlorpromzine, 50 mg, was given to help her fatigue. It did nothing for the fatigue, but the brain fog cleared with the first pill. The pill is taken at night and the next morning the fog lifted and hasn't been back in the magnitude it was before in the three months she has been taking it. This medication was not supposed to have this effect.

As with everything, different strokes for different folks.

Creeping Crud · 01-28-2002, 09:24 AM

Thanks for your support and your suggestions.. There are times that I have less patience with myself than he does.. It's taking a while, but I'm learning to swallow my frustration, apologize profusely for my unpredictable temperament and explain myself and my actions rather than have him attribute them to "mood swings"..

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