Re: Doctors not helping with short term disability
Hi sun19 and everyone else!! As I have mentioned on other threads I am a secretary and a very busy one at that! Thru my job I am able to be a member of a support staff union for a school district. I was fortunate that our contract allowed us to take off work up to 1 year w/o pay but w/ benefits (pretty much unheard of I know).
I still had to get my doc to sign off of everything. I had already exhausted all of my vacation, personal and sick time as well as my FMLA time (which I took on an intermittent basis). I had been seeing my doctor for several years and had a well established relationship. He signed off of my short-term disability as well as my year off of work. We discussed this at length and agreed that I just needed to get my health to a manageable state.
That is exactly what I did. The closer it came to going back to work, the more I made myself sick and I was doing relatively well at the time. When I left work I had a boss who barely gave me any work to do (big change from now) I was told to deal with it. It seemed that nobody really cared.
My husband said that he wanted me to try to go back so I didn't lose my health insurance and we would take it one step at a time. Well, I went back to a new boss (the old one retired) and this one keeps me busier and I could have ever hoped for. It ended up being the best thing I could have done. Being busy helps me to keep my mind off of the pain.
Don't get me wrong. I still have my flare ups and my bad days and bad hours and so on.... My memory is absolutely horrible. I write everything down on a tablet that I keep with me at all times. I am on meds that I can take at work and work and because of my built up tolerance level, I can drive as well (just don't ask my husband or son about that).
I have 2 bosses not actually and it's great. I found that for ME, I NEED to have that constant human interaction. I need and want to be as busy as possible. I still miss days. I just missed a bunch during a recent flare up.
Finding this board has proven to be extrememly helpful to me as well. I can't see you all or touch you all but I know you understand like only a fellow FM sufferer can. For that I am extremely greatful to know that anytime, anyplace, 24/7 365, someone is going to be out here and answer me.
My intent in telling my story is not to pass judgement on any one who feels that he or she needs to take time from work. That my friends is not my job. Only YOU know your own body. That is you. We are all individual. I got what I needed and returned to work. I still take time when needed. My only thoughts that I would express to anyone interested in disability or quitting work.....have you considered all of the pros and cons. Have you exhausted all of the doctors that you are able to? Will you lose your health insurance? Do you have family members that are involved that rely on you?
Those are some of the questions that my husband and I discussed when I didn't want to come back to work. I was not forced in any way. If you knew me; you would know that nobody could force me to anything. I wanted to share them......if they helped you -- great. If not, please just disregard.