Where did my friends go????????? - Fibromyalgia Message Board

CherCher · 04-10-2009, 03:37 PM

I was just diagnosed with this condition and does anyone have people who dont beleive them or treat you differently now? How frustrating is that? Lots of my friends dont think its a real disease how do you deal with it???? Im lost

AnnD · 04-10-2009, 04:16 PM

How do I deal with it...I don't tell people anything. I don't want to hear about all the ills of everyone so I just don't talk about my health issues...I understand that no one cares...why would they. There are appropriate places to discuss health but friends are not it.

bluelakelady · 04-11-2009, 07:40 AM

hi,
i have one close girlfriend who is also in the healing arts. she is the only one i discuss my health with outside of family. my health is but one aspect of me. we talk for hours and my health may take up 2 minutes of that time. giggle. there are so many wonderful things to share. after all these years my health is boring to me, talking about it that is, living it is cool. back when i was a baby fibro brat learning to be this new me, i shared with others. in the end i walked away from all but one of those "friendships" and never looked back.
you have alot of learning to do. alone time is rather important for that to happen. i took 5 years away from the world of socialization. you are not lost, just somewhat misplaced for the moment. you will find yourself and adapt. we all do.
welcome to the boards. this is a good place to talk about your health. we get it.
peace,
bluelakelady

Glojer · 04-11-2009, 05:04 PM

Friends that don't understand or believe in your disease are not friends. I don't talk to other people about my health because I feel it is none of there business. No one wants to hear about someones aches and pains and how hard there life is.....including me. Like blue says, my conversations with friends and family are more about everything else other than our aches and pains. No one really gets it if they don't have it anyway and I really don't want anyone else to have fibro.

Glojer

ps. ditto what blue says, come here we understand.

seaturtle · 04-11-2009, 09:17 PM

I don't usually mention it, either. They don't understand (do we)?
It does irritate and sadden me a bit, though, when I try to share a little with a good friend. They're answer is inevitably something like "Oh, I have that, too." I feel unheard.
But then, why talk about it?
I guess the only time I do is to mention it briefly is I've had to back out of something where the other person thinks I am not wanting to be with them.

Seaturtle