So today I drove 50 miles to see my rheumatologist about the lumps in my arms. I have two broken toes. I'm having a painful day. I get into his office, he pokes at my arm for a second, then tells me he can't feel any lumps and it must be all in my head. So I rub my arm and find a particularly large one for him and say "here's one" so he sticks his finger on it and says "nope, nothing there." Needless to say I had to sit in his office for a minute to compose myself after he left the room. I was sooooo PO'd I was crying. So I get home and call my family doctor, because there's no way I'm going back to this idiot again. I ask for a referral to a different doctor. The receptionist asks why. I tell her politely that I do not feel comfortable with him anymore because our personalities do not match well. She says she will have to check with my family doctor first, but she doesn't think they can find another rheumy who takes my insurance. I read her the list of new, insurance-approved rheumys that I had prepared before I called. She writes them down, then says she will call back tomorrow and let me know if the doctor says it's ok. Ok my @$$, I'm not going back there again. I don't have to put up with an @$$#%## rheumy just because my family doctor thinks I should. I'm not dealing with a doctor who doesn't respect me or believe me. I'm not stupid, I'm not making things up, and I'm not putting up with his crap anymore.
Ok, I feel a little better now...
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The following user gives a hug of support to caribear: monalisa24 (05-05-2011)
good. glad you got it out. now call one of those doctors and make an appt. then go tell your doc who you want a referral to. not ask. tell. that's what i did and i have a great doctor who says yes to everything i ask for. he asked why did i not ask him first. i said saves time if i do it. it does too!
rest up and then get on the phone. the new doc may say i need a referral so you just say, it's in the works, i want to make an appt now. i will be seeing my doc on whatever date. then barge in with everything in hand and tell your doc what you want done.
are you breathing nice and deep now that you got it out? go smell some flowers or lie and watch a quiet old movie with babykins and honey.
peace and hugs of love,
blue
The following user gives a hug of support to bluelakelady: caribear (05-05-2011)
The Following User Says Thank You to bluelakelady For This Useful Post: caribear (05-05-2011)
I'm sooo sorry you had to deal with &^%##### Drs !!!
i haven't gone to a Dr in over 3 yrs except for one this past Jan for a sinus infection. most are worthless in my book and haven't been able to help me so i just don't go anymore!
i have also been treated soo badly from alot of so called specialists hahah..i told about 2 drs off and walked out! took me over 3 months to get in, it was a 2 hr drive an a then husband taking off work ,kids being taken care of to go an be treated like crap!
well calm down now,.. drink some water... get your jammies on...get on the phone or put it on the back burner for today and tackle this tomorrow...hugs girl!!!
Monalisa
The following user gives a hug of support to monalisa24: caribear (05-05-2011)
The Following User Says Thank You to monalisa24 For This Useful Post: caribear (05-05-2011)
Thanks everybody. It just makes me so frustrated... Well, I know you can relate. I'm feeling a lot better now. Picked out a new rheumy, actually have two in mind that are pre-approved by my insurance and highly rated by their patients. I will call tomorrow and make an appointment since they are both at the same practice. Wish I had found them before I chose this guy...
My mom put it perfectly today on the phone. She says, it's hard enough when your body is betraying you, but to have the doctor who is supposed to support you betray you as well is just not right.
Now that I've had some time to relax and reflect, I am glad he did this today. He pushed me into action, and now I will find a new doctor who treats me with respect.
Oh, and I forgot to mention the bright spot of all this junk today. I usually park in the parking garage across the street from the medical building because it's easier than parking on the street and worrying about feeding the meter. When I was pulling out of the lot, I handed my ticket to the attendant. He says "You don't have to worry about paying, there were some people here earlier who bought a bunch of day passes and gave them to me, and told me to bless the people who parked here today." Ahh, little miracles.
How frustrated you must have been. Sometimes you have to wonder how some Drs made it thru med school.
You have 2 Drs in mind, have you given any thought to talking to them each over the phone to get a feel for which may be a better match for you? Explain why you are seeking a new dr and listen for what kind of response you get, that would give you some idea if they care or are the condescending type. Possibly saving you more frustration.
Either way you Iwish you all the luck finding the right dr for you.
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to WoodsWalker For This Useful Post: caribear (05-06-2011), monalisa24 (05-06-2011)
What do you call a doctor that graduates last in his class? ..... A doctor!! ...lolll. This thread reminded me of an old joke I thought I'd share. Hope you all feel better...janiee
The Following User Says Thank You to janiee08 For This Useful Post: caribear (05-06-2011)
hey cari,
if your insurance has them on a pre approved list you should not need a referral. next time you run into a last in his classer don't wait to be pushed into a corner. just dump him when that first mental red flag goes up.
peace,
blue
The Following User Says Thank You to bluelakelady For This Useful Post: caribear (05-06-2011)
My rhematologist said she doesn't think there is a medication that would help me feel better. She talked the crap like nothing is really wrong with me. I think honestly, she needs to find a new job, not in the medical field.
I know how you feel, just went through it myself yesterday. I know the stuff she was telling me was totally obsurd, but I still let it bother me, to the point, I was crying before I went to sleep, yet I know she's full of it. I really shouldn't have let it stress me out at all. It's just frustrating dealing with doctors like that.
And your doctor has to be asked about a new referral. He has to be asked about everything with your care. Now if you get a call and he says no, then that is the time to get mad. LOL.
Sorry your appt went so lousy.
The following 2 users give hugs of support to: neveragain444 caribear (05-06-2011), monalisa24 (05-06-2011)
The Following User Says Thank You to neveragain444 For This Useful Post: caribear (05-06-2011)
Rant about my doctors (again) 
Needless to say I had to sit in his office for a minute to compose myself after he left the room. I was sooooo PO'd I was crying. So I get home and call my family doctor, because there's no way I'm going back to this idiot again. I ask for a referral to a different doctor. The receptionist asks why. I tell her politely that I do not feel comfortable with him anymore because our personalities do not match well. She says she will have to check with my family doctor first, but she doesn't think they can find another rheumy who takes my insurance. I read her the list of new, insurance-approved rheumys that I had prepared before I called. She writes them down, then says she will call back tomorrow and let me know if the doctor says it's ok. Ok my @$$, I'm not going back there again. I don't have to put up with an @$$#%## rheumy just because my family doctor thinks I should. I'm not dealing with a doctor who doesn't respect me or believe me. I'm not stupid, I'm not making things up, and I'm not putting up with his crap anymore. 
...lolll. This thread reminded me of an old joke I thought I'd share. Hope you all feel better
...janiee
