Re: More Questions, lol
There IS a middle ground between "radical" acceptance and totally hiding it, but it took me years to get there. My fibro isn't that bad nowadays, but I do have other chronic conditions that affect me more.
At work, I'm usually able to hide it. (My job is kind of demanding, but flexible in the ways I need it to be.) With friends/family, it's sometimes harder. The trick for me is just to be matter of fact. "I'm sorry, I can't do that right now. You guys go without me." Or, "Huh, my hips really hurt today. That's annoying!" It does help to know that I have other friends with chronic pain or illnesses. They really do GET it.
But I do have bad days, when it feels like no one understands. When I wound up lending my sports equipment to a friend so she could go without me and I could stay home and ice my knee, for example. It's even OK to throw yourself a pity party if you need it, just don't get stuck there.