Welcome to the board Poet!
You got wonderful advice & words of wisdom
Unfortuetly your family is in denial. That is to be expected, just doesn't make it any easier. It took 2 yrs for my husband to be more excepting, but still in denial. He will never get it. Still hurts my feelings but not as much. He does like your 15 yr old... Says "you never feel good", "you're antisocial", "you're no fun", "you're boring"... I've found he says this stuff to make me mad. She will likely do this until she's an adult. I have a feeling that she will understand one day & may even be your biggest supporter.
I have 4 kids (12, 9, 8, & 2). I started explaining my problems about a year ago. I don't talk about it often but every once in awhile it will come up. If I'm having a really bad day I dish out the chores, say I'm having a really bad day, don't feel well. They seem understand alittle. But I think that's because they have seen me run to the bathroom sick many times. Unfortuetly it takes me being in a terrible flare & sick for them to understand alittle. They know I'm not lazy but they don't understand why I can't do more. I used to push myself constantly & can't anymore. But having these issues we have to learn to live differently.
it's best to not talk about it unless its really bad & you need left alone.
One thing I explain to my husband often is "I did not choose this. It is not my choice to take so many medications & vitamins. Its not my choice to have to pay so many medical bills. But atleast I am trying". He has never been able to argue with that. He knows I eat healthy & exercise. Basically you have to show them that you have not given up, you are doing your best.
They will never understand. But in time they will start to accept it.
When everything got worst for me, I didn't have many friends anyways. If I did I probly would have lost most of them. But then 13 yrs ago when probs all started I had allot of friends & lost them all... But that's ok. I don't have the time or energy for allot of friends. But the ones I have accept me as I am
Most of my family I don't talk about fibro with. I'm pretty sure my mom has explained it to them. But the last thing I need is them to try & tell me what my problems are. To say they don't believe in fibro, ect. I just put on a smile, enjoy my time with them... Then go home & rest
I don't work. Even if the kids were grown & moved out I doubt I could. I have sooo much respect for you! It is definelty not easy... If I were to guess... You probly go to work. Come home & rest then do it again the best day. You probly have to make yourself shower, make yourself make something to eat & try to get alitle cleaning done some how. You have no energy or time to do extra stuff like clean out a closet or something else you'd love to accomplish. It's so tough on us that don't work. You should be very proud of your accomplishment! It is unfortuet your family doesn't appriciate that. But thats ok because you know how strong you are.
Anyhow, I'm done rambling lol
I look forward to seeing you around!