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Old 08-01-2012, 08:49 PM   #1
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Fibro and wedding dresses

So, guys, I'm in a bit of a crisis. I'm getting married in a year and I'd like to have my wedding dress ordered in the next month or two. The thing is that I've already fallen in love with a dress. It's a mermaid that is all lace and it just beautiful...but the thing is that because of how tight it has to be it makes my back hurt (I wore it for 15 minutes and was hurting even worse than I had been before) and I will have to strip down to go pee. I go pee every 45 minutes to and hour at my most frequent. I'll have to spend 15 minutes getting out of the dress, going pee, and hopping back in it. It just doesn't seem feasible to me. But that is the style that works well for my body (I'm 5'4" with an hourglass body shape). What do I do? I found one that has a looser fit and I love, but I already showed my Fiance it in anticipation of getting the other one. Then it hit me today that hey, I pee a lot. I can't just hike the dress up to go, and there is no way I could afford the alterations needed to get a zipper stuck in.
All of you out there who have gotten married or are in the process of, what have you done? I really need some help.
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Old 08-01-2012, 09:34 PM   #2
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Re: Fibro and wedding dresses

Don't wear a dress that's going to make you absolutely miserable. There are a lot of pretty dresses out there!

For me, it was shoes. That was right in the middle of ankle wars, and not only were heels out of the question, so were most dress flats.

I wound up ordering a special pair of white leather Victorian-style boots. And they worked!

Remember, the wedding doesn't have to be perfect, that's a consumerist myth designed to get you to spend money you don't have and stress too much. You just have to get legally married. Try to have a good time while you're doing it.

 
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Old 08-02-2012, 07:23 AM   #3
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Re: Fibro and wedding dresses

hi cerene,
tough choice. to be the princess you always dreamed of being or be comfortable. not fair! me, i would go for filling my dream and consider the rest the price one pays for feeling absolutely glorious on my special day. you could buy both and do a rush change after pics. giggle. or a lovely day dress for rushing off to honeymoon. afraid only you can decide what matters most. a lifetime memory or a comfortable day.
when i had my last one i wore a long white summer dress with no shoes and a wreath of flowers on my bald head. the dress was 15lbs and by the end of the day my back and shoulders were sore. still have the dress and wear it in summer at least once.
you have some time to think on it. go try them on a few more times and think about it some more. whatever you decide you will look stunning in it i have no doubt.
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Re: Fibro and wedding dresses

Thank you guys. I think I'm going to have to go for a more comfortable one. It's almost a week later and I'm still paying for wearing dresses. The one I want it more like 30lbs if not more. If we get the venue we are looking at our ceremony will be at 5:30pm and we will only have the place till 1am and the honeymoon will be later in the year, so i don't see the point in getting 2 dresses. I had found another one that was nice, but wasn't as fitted or heavy so I may have to go with something like that...which isn't what I always thought my wedding dress would be like, but I never though I would have fibro for my wedding either.
This is a tough choice! And what makes it even tougher is that I have the possibility of getting in to see a rheumy and a pain specialist before the wedding, and they could make it so that I could wear the dress of my dreams. On the same coin it could be a huge waitlist and I wouldn't have enough time to find something that works so I can wear it. I can't take that chance.
Blarg!
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Old 08-02-2012, 07:45 PM   #5
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Re: Fibro and wedding dresses

Dress comfy ...I don't know about you but when I flare I can't remember a thing. You want to enjoy your special so whatever you do don't make yourself miserable pain will show on your face. good luck on your decision ....
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I'm sure you can find another, more comfortable 'dream dress' before your wedding... you've got plenty of time to shop. I'd NEVER wear a dress that I had to take off to pee - I'd spend all my time undressing!
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Wear what's going to be comfortable for you. And don't rely on the rheumy and PM doc because sometimes it takes time to find a med that works, plus I just aim for pain decrease. The meds they prescribe aren't always going to take the pain away 100%. YOu always have the option of renewing your vows at some point and then maybe you will be able to wear the dress of your dreams.

 
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Re: Fibro and wedding dresses

I am fairly sure I'm going back and finding something else. I'd love to wear that one, but I can't rely on it. Gonna grab my dad and go back to the same store. I'm hoping that if I explain my situation to them they can help me find something that fits my tastes, but I can also wear without fear of pain or having to get naked to go pee. Thank you all for the advice, it really helped me figure out what to do with certainty. I love you all!
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smart thinking girl. take dad and communicate your special needs. bravo!!
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Re: Fibro and wedding dresses

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I am fairly sure I'm going back and finding something else. I'd love to wear that one, but I can't rely on it. Gonna grab my dad and go back to the same store. I'm hoping that if I explain my situation to them they can help me find something that fits my tastes, but I can also wear without fear of pain or having to get naked to go pee. Thank you all for the advice, it really helped me figure out what to do with certainty. I love you all!
I want to thank you for your update. And I hope you have the wedding of your dreams and a long and happy life with your fiancee. Congratulations!

 
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