I have had two Lapidus surgeries, one on each foot. I did not have the calf muscle surgery you did. It sounds like you are on track for getting back to walking. I know it feels like an eternity for your foot to heal, but it is healing, it just takes a long time. Your friends and family may have forgotten about your surgery already, but you are still dealing with it on a day to day basis, it's very frustrating and depressing. The different parts of your foot that were not even operated on are adjusting to bearing weight that it wasn't used to before. The bruising seems normal. I was on an antidepressant that made the bruising worse and after going to physical therapy, the therapist massaged my foot so hard I had bruises on the bottom of my foot, which put me back into a wheelchair for a couple of weeks, so I can't recommend PT, but some people have benefited from it. My first foot surgery was filled with going forward, then going backwards. My second foot surgery went better.
For the first foot surgery, it was around 8 months where things started to get way better and walking started to get less painful, so good things are coming your way real soon. Your foot has gone through some very radical things with the rebuilding of your arch and all, it will get better. I am also wearing orthotics, they are highly recommended after this type of surgery. I only wear one pair of shoes, Brooks Ariel (good for pronators) because frankly, I have been through so much pain with my feet, all I want to do is walk pain-free. I've been to a wedding and funeral with those shoes and my friends and family don't care what I wear on my feet, they are just so happy to see me walking. Good luck to you.