What could this possibly be? - General Health Message Board

WhiskersOnKittens · 12-29-2004, 12:30 AM

Hi everyone,
I'm really curious about something. What disease (that is hereditary) can cause a person to possibly be unable to have a baby, and also cause someone to be cold all the time? Someone I know (we are not great friends so I don't want to ask her about it), has these symptoms, but doesn't like talking about it so I don't really have any way to find out what's going on with her. I am a bit concerned, and I am just REALLY curious as to if she is actually telling the truth about this (she is always hungry for attention, so I feel she may be embelishing a bit). I'm not sure about any of her other symptoms--all I know is that she may not be able to have a child, it was inherited from her mother, who was miraculously able to have her, and she is usually cold. Anybody have any ideas? Thanks for taking the time to read this!

Whiskers

Erika2610 · 12-29-2004, 12:57 AM

Now if she doesn't wanna talk about it & hasn't told you.. why do you feel you need to know? It sounds pretty personal to me..

WhiskersOnKittens · 12-29-2004, 11:14 PM

I never said I NEED to know, I'm extremely curious because we are about to be in the same family. I'm also concerned for her, as I mentioned in my previous post--it's not like I need to know to go around telling other people about it. IPersonally, I wouldn't be upset if I let somebody in on certain personal things about me, and then they tried to figure out what was actually going on, for their own personal knowledge.

Whiskers

Marie55 · 12-30-2004, 12:01 PM

Not being able to have children for any reason is very traumatic for women, especially if they desire to have children of their own.

I was not able to have children for a long time and then God blessed me with 5 healthy babies over a 10 year period. Yes, we do wonder why others seem to have babies with no trouble and we are still barren. We feel sorry for ourselves, but that does not mean for others to be nosy. We get sad when we see others pregnant and we are not, we do get down thinking about never having a baby of our own to hold and cuddle.

It is a miracle when a woman finally has a baby after being told they are not able to have one. When you stop and think about it, the whole process of pregnancy and birth is a miracle. Count your blessings if you are able to have children, it could have been you that is barren.

There are some conditions that seem to run in families. One of my daughters is unable to have children but I do not ask her questions, it is her personal business. She would make a wonderful mother, always loved little ones but for whatever reason she will never have children. She is in her 40's now.

To solve some of your curoisity, some women may have PCOS, tipped uterus, hormone imbalance, fallopian tubes blocked or damaged. There are many other things that may be the reason and it is not always a problem with the woman, husbands play a part too.

Do not ask your friend about her childless state, accept her for who she is and pray for her.

WhiskersOnKittens · 12-30-2004, 02:24 PM

Thanks for the post, Marie55 but, I can't help but feel lectured by it, when I thought these boards were created for knowledge, and support.

I feel like (by the responses I've gotten), some women think it is insensitive of me, to be curious about what's going on with her. I am completely understanding of the reasons she doesn't feel like telling me exactly what is going on with her, which is why I don't ask. I do not see any harm in my trying to find out SOMETHING for myself, since I've known about this for years, and have been unable to find out (I think we all are curious about certain things, and do research, just for our own personal knowledge--there is nobody who can outrightly say that my researching this will hurt her

). I have thought about it many times (and continue to do so), what it would be like to be unable to carry a child of my own (and I know that husbands also play a part in infertility, sometimes), and I would be completely devastated by it, since I want them so badly (so, no lecturing needed there). Thank you for your list of possibilities of what it could be--that is all I was asking for, from the people who may have an idea.
Just a question though--why on earth would I not "accept" my friend for who she is, simply because she may not be able to carry a child???

Whiskers