Drunk driver - Grief & Loss Message Board

Bill17724 · 10-01-2004, 06:26 PM

I lost my 14 year old daughter to a drunk driver 5 years ago. I still can't handle the pain. It didn't have to happen. It wasn't natural. She would be alive today and in college except for someones dumb decision to get behind the wheel of a car when he wasn't capable of driving. He got 12 and a half years in prison because he didn't call for some help driving. Quite a price to pay not to mention he was responsible for taking away the life of a beautiful teenage girl and her whole future in life. Think before you drive....Bill

ps I could go into more details if anyone is interested

Ami72 · 10-04-2004, 10:46 AM

Bill,

I am so sorry for your loss! My aunt her husband were killed many years ago by a drunk driver. They had just gotten married the year before, and had three young children (separately, and one together). These children had to grow up without their parents, and the guy who killed them got off with a few years in jail. He also had a history of DUIs and was driving on a revoked license.
Trying to deal with grief of losing a loved one is hard enough, but when you have to deal with the anger at the senseless manner of their death, it is even harder. I can only imagine how much more you must hurt, as your daughter was so young.
God bless you and if you need to 'talk' about your situation, the people on this board are great 'listeners'.
Ami

gfd · 10-05-2004, 07:32 PM

My mom brother was killed by drunk driver when he was 27 I choose never to drink because of that reason I never had beer in my life and I"M 23 I think people drink too much they act really dumb . Nobody ever going to get me to drink. This one girl on oprah she was drunk and got in car accident now she in a wheelchair the rest of her life. I dont hate people that drink but it's somthing I never do.

goody2shuz · 10-05-2004, 07:48 PM

I am soooo very sorry to hear about your loss. I have a 16 year old who's just starting to learn how to drive & I am going to show her this post. Now that she is on the road I worry so much...not so much about her but about whoever else is on the road.

How mature it is for the previous poster to stay away from drinking...it is the smartest thing to do and would save so many lives if others did the same.

God's blessings always....Goody

Ruth6:11 · 10-08-2004, 05:18 PM

Bill, please do tell us a little more about your daughter... Did she have a favorite food, color, singer? Maybe a little of her personality?

Stories like yours remind me of John Walsh. His son murdered so young. He could have become bitter, cynical, hateful. Somehow he managed to channel all that into his America's Most Wanted show and has saved so many lives.
How did he do it? How do YOU do it?

My prayers go out to you and your family - please tell us some of the happier memories, ok??