How are you all? - Grief & Loss Message Board

loboo · 12-13-2006, 07:28 AM

Hi Guys! Just wondered how you all are. I haven't been on for a while, but thought it would be good to jump on and catch up. It would have been Dads birthday on Thursday, so we all intend to celebrate, bought a big chocolate cake and we are going to send birthday messages up to the skies via a helium balloon & light a special candle in his rose garden. Kids are all excited that we can still celebrate Grandads birthday! Greif counsellor said it was a good idea to replace any negative thoughts of his passing and funeral to positive happy ones - hope this is helping kids, by letting them see we can still do things for grandad.
I feel the same as quite a few of us. Christmas is coming and it is our 1st without Dad, got the anniversary of his passing soon after too.
Glad we have this board to keep us all together and giving us all words of encouragement and comfort.
Thinking of you all that are without your loved ones like i am without my Dad... it's still hard
xxxx

susan kay · 12-13-2006, 06:16 PM

hi lobo im making it i was doing good until i saw my daddys counter today i had i good doctors vist and came over to his house and he had cleaned off the counter and had moms pic. with babie angles in front of it and angles on either side of it so i started crying and told daddy i had to go over to my house i couldnt look at that right then he said o.k. im sorry i said thats o.k. ill get used to it but i go every sunday and se her grave and spend some quite time weather permiting. but im o,k, i guess ill have to be. thanks for asking.susan kay

loboo · 12-14-2006, 02:23 AM

I think I recall you saying he wasn't really talking about your mom, he was shutting her passing away, it is lovely that he has put her pic out with angels, soon you will be able to look at it and it wont hurt, I look at Dads roses and smile, today it being his birthday, i get that old familiar lump in throat, and tearey eyes. Keep going - we are learning to live in a different way, but you know what - we are doing it
Lots of Love Susan Kay x

cher1052 · 12-16-2006, 04:09 AM

loboo-Hi! you are so right in saying how you learn to live in a different way! My family will be getting together to celebrate/give the neices/nephews their gifts-it was a event mom started over 15 years ago!! We do a progressive party-and I found out that we will not be getting together on christmas-that hurts...it seems like everyone is going in different directions-it's been only 5 mths since mom passed away. I took flowers to the grave this week-and it hit me that this will be our first xmas w/o both our parents!! the tears came...I have been doing so good-and then bam---those tears wouldn't stop!!!!!!!!!!! I will be going to dinner at my sisters on the eve-and a midnite mass-thinking about going to the movies on christmas. Later-Cheri

CoyoteBound · 12-21-2006, 02:56 AM

cher1052,

I hear exactly what your saying because it all hits home with me too. I lost my Dad in 2004, my sister 2004, my brother-in-law 2005, and then my prescious Mother on March 28, 2006. This will be the first Christmas for me also with out both parents and my sister included. From way back as far as I can remember, my Mom had a big gathering at our house for Christmas where we opened our gifts and then on the 25th we all got together and had our Christmas Dinner. It won't ever be the same anymore but we have got to keep going the best that we can for our kids and our Grandkids!

Happy Holidays to all of you!

Jan