My Big Sister... - Grief & Loss Message Board

DDSLittleSister · 01-03-2007, 05:49 AM

I never thought I'd lose her. Least not until we were both old and gray. I am 30 and she was only 34. I just found out a few hours ago. Died. Autopsy today I think. Had surgery for back recently, but unsure if it's complications from that or a medicine accidental overdose. Either way, I'm in shock. She has a 15 year old special needs' son. A husband of only a few months. Lives in another state. Very messed up right now. I hurt most of all for my mother and my nephew. I hurt bad. I always need my big sister. So many things left unresolved. Now I'm nobody's baby sister anymore. I hurt and just had to say it some place.

meeshy · 01-03-2007, 05:59 AM

Hi

I wish i knew what to say to help the pain, i don't am afraid as am feeling the pain of just loosing my mum also....but please don't feel alone, i also come here to help me through it, by doing so i hope i can help someone also.....together here we can somehow although we/i can't imagine how will get through this hard time.

Take care and a big hug

Meeshy
xxx

Phoenix · 01-04-2007, 03:37 AM

Dear DDSLittleSister,

At this point in time, be there for your family as I am sure that they will be there for you. Don't take on any more than you can handle at the moment for you are in a vulnerable state of mind.

My brother passed in 1990 and we were 4 years apart also. What brings me a certain amount of solace is that I know he is never far away.

If you need to "speak", I'll be here.

Take care
God Bless

FTM

DDSLittleSister · 01-04-2007, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by meeshy

Hi

I wish i knew what to say to help the pain, i don't am afraid as am feeling the pain of just loosing my mum also....but please don't feel alone, i also come here to help me through it, by doing so i hope i can help someone also.....together here we can somehow although we/i can't imagine how will get through this hard time.

Take care and a big hug

Meeshy
xxx

Thank you. I'm sorry for what you are going through, too. I feel very much the same way as in not sure how I will get through this, but I will and so will you. Some things just take time and a lot of pain to get through before we can see clearly again, I think. -hugs-

DDSLittleSister · 01-04-2007, 07:53 AM

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Originally Posted by forthemasses

Dear DDSLittleSister,

At this point in time, be there for your family as I am sure that they will be there for you. Don't take on any more than you can handle at the moment for you are in a vulnerable state of mind.

My brother passed in 1990 and we were 4 years apart also. What brings me a certain amount of solace is that I know he is never far away.

If you need to "speak", I'll be here.

Take care
God Bless

FTM

Thank you for your words of wisdom. I'm sorry about your brother. I am here especially for my mother though things are very strained with most other family at this time so support is not exactly coming it seems. Pretty much just me and my mother. My sister's husband has already managed to alienate my nephew from his grandmother and possibly me. He isn't even his father. Things are hard. Family isn't helping. Two of my mothers sisters, one who lost a child of her own a few years ago, were very horrible to her rather than offering the love and support she needs. So I am really needing to be more and take on more for my mother's sake just now. But I know I need to think of me, too. Hope I make sense, am really running on automatic pilot these days.