daddy yelling at me again - Grief & Loss Message Board

susan kay · 01-26-2007, 08:27 PM

here we go again daddy yelling at me a renter came in to pay his rent and daddy thought i was overly friendly tohim all i did was speak to the man i didnt know who he was so i was trying to ask daddy in a escreet way and he said WOULD YOU GET OUT OF MY WAY AND I JUST LOOKED T HIM AND HE SAID MOVE AND I LOKKED AT HIM AGAIN LIKE HE HAD DONE LOST HIS MINDAND AFTER THE MAN LEFT I DIDNT KNOW WHO HE WAS HE SAID IF YOU ARE GOING TO HANG OUT WITH HIM DO IT SOMWHERE ELSE NOT AROUND HERE. I DIDNT EVEN KNOW WHO HE WAS. I TOLD HI YOU BEST STOP HOLLERING AT ME IM NOT 5 YEARS OLD ANY MORE. HE AID SOME TIMES YOU CANT BE NIE TO PEOPLE LIKE THAT.[ MEANING SOME MEN] I TOLD HIM LOOK I HAVE ROWN UP ALOT SINCE MOM DIED AND ALL YOU HAD TO SAY WAS THIS WAS MR. SO AND SO AND HE RENTS AT ;;; AND THAT WOULD HAE BEEN FINE INTEAD HE TARTS HOLLERING AT ME NOW YALL SHOULD KNOW ME WELL ENOUGH O THIS BOARD THAT TALKING TO ME LIKE I AM SOME KIND OF DUMB IS NOT THE WAY[ MODERATERS I M SORRY BUT VENTING HELPS] I TOLD HIM HE WAS IN A STINKING MOOD TONIGHT AND HE BEST STOP HOLLERING AT ME I AM 47 NOT 5 HE SAID YOU NEED TO GO TO YOUR HOUSE I SAID OH SO NOW YOU ARE THROGHING ME OUT OF THE HOUSE I SAID YOU BEST STOP THIS HOLLERING AT ME HE SAID YOU AN GO TALK TO THE WALLS IM NOE HOLLERING AT YOU I SAYS YES YOPU ARE I DIDNT EEN KNOW WHO HE WAS. I SAID IM GOING TO MY OUSE AND I HOPE YOU ARE IN A BETTER MOOD TOMMOROW.[I GO BACK TO WORK FROM VACAION SO I WONT HAVE TO LOOK AT HIM ]BESIDES WHO SAYS I WOULD WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH HIM ANY WAY HE SAID YOU WRE BEING OERLY FRIENDLY I SAID I SPOKE TO THE MAN . [APPARTLY HE MUST BE AN UNSVERY CHACTER] I DONT EVEN KNOW THE MAN FISRT TIME I V EVER SEEN HIM. ] I AM GETING REALLY REALLY REALLY TIRED OF DADDY THINKING HE CAN HOLLER AT ME AND THINK HE IS GOING TO GET AWAY WITH IT I AM 47 NOW AND O DONT HAVE TO AND WILL NOT ALLOW SOME BODY ANY BODY TO BLATLY HOLLER AT ME. I RAISE MY VOICE TO DR. MIKE SEVERAL TIMES IF I HAVE THOUGHT HE WAS WRONG[ HE WASNT BUT THATS ANOTHER STORY WHAT AM I GOING TO DO ABOUT DADY HOLLERING AT ME. ? I HAVE JUST ABOUT HAD ENOGH.

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CoyoteBound · 01-27-2007, 12:30 AM

Susan,

Do you think he was just having a bad day? Or do you think he did that to you because of you having the little talk with him over the ladies down the street from him? Maybe he is trying to get back at you for you saying something to him about his women friends. You just never know what might be going through his mind at this time.

Hvae you thought about just calling him to see if he is alright and maybe just staying away for a while to see if that would help thing any? I didn't have that problem when my Dad passed away from my Mom so this is just a guessing game you would call it that he is taking his anger out on you for what you said to him about his friends. You just never know what to do anymore do you? Bless your heart! Well I hope things get better for you because I know that noone wants to be hollered at.

Good luck at work tomorrow!

Jan

kathryn+2 · 01-27-2007, 12:52 PM

Susankay...
As you may or may not know ..anger can be one of the stages in the grieving process. He may be having a hard time containing his anger right now, and sorry ,but you got caught in the crossfire..And you know that men don't usually let their feelings hang out there like we women do ,.S ometimes the only outlet they have to express their pain and suffering is through anger. Also if he thinks this man is a little on the unsavory side he may be being a tad overprotrective of you right now. You know, a long time ago i used to think that bad things only happened to other people .But now that I've experienced some of my worst nightmares come true , as a parent and grandparent ,I tend to be a little overprotective myself these days. ( plus my mom was a "champion worrier" and some of it rubbed off on me

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Hang in there....Kathryn

cher1052 · 01-30-2007, 06:09 PM

Susan, I have to agree with Jan-everyone needs to be alone-have time to themselves. Maybe that's what he wants-time to himself-to cry,laugh, think over things alone. Cherie

susan kay · 01-30-2007, 06:44 PM

hi yes everyone has said the same thing so some things have happened to me since i wrote that i have a new sweetheart and he has moved in with me so maybe now i will have my mind on my new adventure rather than hovering over my dad. and we went to him like adults and talked to him and he didnt have a problem with it he said just to come through the back door of my house i thought that was funny bobby ask why and i told hime you know baby girl man living in the house with her and he sas oh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. i laughed. so a lot has happened bobby makes me smile and we like being wih each other so i guess we will see. so i will give my dady some space. so whats up with everyone else.