My father died on April 6, 2007 - He had Senile Dementia- but had several strokes and finally died. Did not suffer long November to April. But the loss was devestating to me. I lost my Dad. I have five brothers and I was his youngest and only little girl. When me and my Mom went through his wallet - he had a picture of me - every single year of my life - 38 of them. She said that I was the love of his life. The day before he died - he was almost comatose - but I kept saying "Daddy" to him and he looked right at me and said - "Loretta - my baby girl - I love you" - God what a precious gift. I was the only one he responded to. I miss him and my loss is intense.
But.......my question is - my Mom is having a horrible time with this. They were together for 54 years. I mean I lost my Dad - she lost the partner she built a life with - her lover - the one she had 6 kids with - the one that went through life struggles with - the one that she loved forever. She talks to me about it and I listen - but I don't know what to say to her. I don't know how to comfort her. She told me the other day that she prays every night that he would visit her - she said she wouldn't be scared - she would just love to see him. She has his cell phone - so I told her - call it - listen to his voice - I don't know if that was good advice or not. The doctors say it takes time - but - I don't know what to do. She cries all the time and is so depressed. They just put her on medicine for depression - but I don't know that it will help all that much.
Any advice for how to comfort her - to help her. With fathers day coming up - it is gonna kill her. We use to have huge BBQ's with them and now - well - I don't know what we are gonna do. If anyone knows someway I can help her - please let me know. Thanks.