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Old 07-22-2007, 10:41 PM   #1
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Missing my Dad

My Dad died of Colon Cancer two months ago, and I miss him like crazy!!!! My family has had the year from hell. My Dad was diagnosed in Aug of last year up until then he was my Mother's primary care giver, she has MS and we had to put her in a nursing home in Sept! So through his last year his was living by himself . My dad started to get really bad in Apr of this year my sister and I went for a visit for Easter and Dad wouldn't even get off of the couch he was so tired and he had no appitite. We took him in to the hospital and they said he didn't have long maybe afew weeks, they put him into Pallitive Care from there when a bed became available. They took his IV off there I was very strong through this whole thing but the day that they took out the IV I lost it ( I waited until I go to the parking lot ) I guess it was the beginning of the end, for Dad little did I know what was in store for Dad. The Dr. would tell us he has 2 weeks he can't live longer than that as each went by the nurses started saying your Dad is off the chart meaning that they beyond what they expected. There are 3 kids in ours family and we took turns spending time with him and the end so he wasn't alone at all. There was one night shift I had it was the last one was still awake for I came in the room to start my shift and he had his eyes shut felt guilty because the afteron before when I left I didn't say I love you and now I might never get the chance to tell him again so I thought I'll say it now even if he can't hear me, I said he opened his eyes, said I Love you too, I love all of you kids, then he put his hand out for to slap (give him 5, he always did that) later that night nurses came to turn him he was very out of it then but he looked me and said Thank you, Thank you those were his last words he went to sleep then and didn't wake up. He amazed his Dr. he was in Pallaitive Care for 32 days!!!
When does this aching go away, I still cry so much

 
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Old 07-23-2007, 08:11 AM   #2
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Re: Missing my Dad

It does hurt and it is going to hurt for a while. You have a space inside of you that nothing else will fill. My mother died in her sleep on Easter Sunday. She was fine when she went to bed. She just didn't wake up. I never got the chance to say I love you that last time. I never had the time to spend with her one on one before she went. She was 81. My father is coping but he misses her terribly. They had lived next door to each other. They had known each other over 70 years.

It has taken me 4 months to get past wanting to cry every day. I am finally getting back to my old routine. Why? Because my mother would have wanted it that way. My mother would never have wanted us to cry and be sad. She would have wanted us to go on.

It isn't easy. In fact, I was on the phone with my sister a few weeks ago and we had a good cry together. But that's how it goes.

You aren't alone. We all grieve together.

Sara

 
Old 02-21-2008, 05:54 AM   #3
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Re: Missing my Dad

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My Dad died of Colon Cancer two months ago, and I miss him like crazy!!!! My family has had the year from hell. My Dad was diagnosed in Aug of last year up until then he was my Mother's primary care giver, she has MS and we had to put her in a nursing home in Sept! So through his last year his was living by himself . My dad started to get really bad in Apr of this year my sister and I went for a visit for Easter and Dad wouldn't even get off of the couch he was so tired and he had no appitite. We took him in to the hospital and they said he didn't have long maybe afew weeks, they put him into Pallitive Care from there when a bed became available. They took his IV off there I was very strong through this whole thing but the day that they took out the IV I lost it ( I waited until I go to the parking lot ) I guess it was the beginning of the end, for Dad little did I know what was in store for Dad. The Dr. would tell us he has 2 weeks he can't live longer than that as each went by the nurses started saying your Dad is off the chart meaning that they beyond what they expected. There are 3 kids in ours family and we took turns spending time with him and the end so he wasn't alone at all. There was one night shift I had it was the last one was still awake for I came in the room to start my shift and he had his eyes shut felt guilty because the afteron before when I left I didn't say I love you and now I might never get the chance to tell him again so I thought I'll say it now even if he can't hear me, I said he opened his eyes, said I Love you too, I love all of you kids, then he put his hand out for to slap (give him 5, he always did that) later that night nurses came to turn him he was very out of it then but he looked me and said Thank you, Thank you those were his last words he went to sleep then and didn't wake up. He amazed his Dr. he was in Pallaitive Care for 32 days!!!
When does this aching go away, I still cry so much
Ask Jesus to take the pain away. He is understands exactly what you are going through. I pray you will be o.k

 
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