Hello everyone, just wondering if anyone can relate to my story at all or what I am going through?
Background.... June 15th I lost my job at the bank I worked with for 6 years, restructuring... at the end of June my dad who was 58, died of a heart attack. I as the oldest son had to plan it all, from start to end and take care of everything and me being 28 had no idea where to start, but got through it all okay and with hardly any trouble (I also was so busy I didn't have time to open up or really grief through all of this).
So all of a sudden, a month and a half to two months ago, I had chest pain or pressure, which they said could be a chest infection so I took anti botics and puffer to help clear out my chest, which helped but didn't get rid of the chest pressure. I was walking in a mall with my best friend after having a nice lunch and all of a sudden I had this odd feeling from head all the way to toes, tiggle sensation, and a feeling of hot and cold and a blurred vision, and I felt like I would fall and had to grab my friend (but I didn't fall and it just lasted seconds). I have had the same tingle feeling in my chest too and the doctor said it could be my breathing which I looked up and you normally feel it in the mouth and arms if it's breathing... it caused me to get checked up good, so I had heart tests, stress tests, ecg, blood work, cat scan of head and all are normal so far...
Other symptoms I have are:
tight chest / heavy chest
bad headaches and sore neck
sensitve to light at times
weak feeling - like wabbly feet sometimes
feeling like I am not walking balanced or falling back when I am not really falling backwards
feeling faint or like I could pass out but never do
sometimes these things happen when I am out walking or sometimes at home watching tv
So, I am sure some of this may be other things, like stress, anxiety maybe, the loss process, but I was wondering if anyone can relate and tell me if they have felt these things before? The tingling thing while walking scares me and the symptoms sometimes affect my life and what I do for now...
I am working on dealing with letting some of the feelings of my loss out to see if it helps, but just looking for other feedback or advice.
You are experiencing stress and anxiety and probably a little depression to top it off. It almost sounds like you are having mini panic attacks. I have been there and I have gone through most of those symptoms because I suffer from anxiety.
Talk to your family physician about something for anxiety. It's not the least bit surprising considering what you have been going through that you would be feeling this way. Most people have some sort of physical ailment fall out after the death of a loved one. Headaches, stomach aches, flu like symptoms are not unusual. Your body goes for so long on adrenilan and then it doesn't need it any more. There is always some physical problem that will happen after being under that much stress for that long.
Stress and grief can manifest itself physically. I have lost two friends this year -- one to cancer and one to suicide (just a few months apart). The time leading up to the events was very stressful -- one in watching someone diminish everyday with cancer and the second trying to help someone out of their mental pain. The latter actually became quite burdensome in practical matters which meant I had to take up a lot of slack for them. I ended up pushing myself too much and got a terrible pinch nerve for which I am finally fixing going to a chiropractor not to mention I started stress eating and having lots of anxiety (way more than I normally have).
So, yeah, I think it is entirely possible to be grief/stress. Make sure you are good to yourself and don't be afraid to ask others for help.