This helped me...maybe it will help someone else!
I have been reading alot of the post here and for various reasons. I lost my Mama when I was only 4 years old and here I am 37 years later and I still have days when I cry all day. Also I am facing some pretty frightening news myself. I have had some problems for a while now and the word "biopsy" is coming up alot ....Death is not something I am afraid of. I have lived with it all my life. But how do I even fathom telling MY nine year old ANGEL? I cant even think about it right now.My heart is absolutley BREAKING for the PRECIOUS girl I would have to leave behind should this turn out bad.
Anyway....the other reason I wanted to post here...A few years back I was going thru a really hard time dealing with not having my Mama around. And yes It still hurts. I was on another site that i belong to for motherless daughters and someone sent me a message that changed the way I coped.
It starts out by saying that when someone you love DIES it's like being thrown into the cold ocean and you cannot swim. You are in absolute shock and panic and wonder how you will ever survive. Then after a little while you learn to tread the water instead of fighting it. Most days are good but every now and again a WAVE washes over you, catches you by suprise. Takes your breath....and u slowly begin to tread the water again. You realize you will never escape the ocean, but you make your peace with the water. Understand we are all here together. If you are taken under....reach for my hand.
I hope this helps you as much as it helped me.