okay, my dad died in august of this year. he had cancer. my mom was his caregiver the whole 10 months he was sick. she was by his side 24-7. we really didn't think he was going to die, so his death was pretty unexpected and traumatic for all of us. she's 56, he was almost 60.
lately my mom has been having some anxiety/panic attacks, where her chest hurts, her heart pounds, she gets really pissy, testy, snappish.... not sure how to describe it. she gets to where she can't handle anything, can't make a decision, can't function, just wants to get out of the situation and run hide in her home, usually in her bed.
it's very hard for me to deal with because it's NOT who she is. she's always been strong and able to handle everything. i don't know if i should give into this behavior, or remind her of how strong she's always been. if i acknowledge the behavior (don't i sound like i'm dealing with a little kid??? sorry!), am i going to be encouraging her to keep doing it? she hates being and feeling helpless and it gets her down when she gets this way.
she didn't start doing this until the month or so, and that's really when all the attention she was getting from other people really started to fade away. so is she doing it for attention (subconsciously), or is it just something that comes along with grieving?
i hope i don't come off sounding like a horrible daughter. i just want to help her. i know she's going through some seriously awful pain and i'm so proud of her for all the things she IS doing right now. the anxiety/panic attacks though, are a bit worrisome. any advice or reassuring words would help!