Prayers For Scott - Grief & Loss Message Board

star_light221 · 04-30-2008, 11:36 PM

Hi Everyone
Just wanted to report that my daughter in lawss father is still hanging on but they still cannot get his pain under control. The urine in his capheter is black and he sleeps most of the time because of the heavy meds they have him on but he wakes screaming in pain
I cannot believe that they cannot control the pain in this day and age
Have you heard of essiac?
it is supposed to cure cancer, would love to hear from anyone who has used this treatment.
Does all lung cancer cause breathing problems?
Scott( my daughter in laws Father) is now hallucinating and talking to deceased love ones, maybe they are there to take him home,?
May i ask people in this room to join me in prayer for Scott
thank you all from the bottom of my heart
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donna70 · 05-01-2008, 10:36 AM

I will certainly pray for Scott. I come on this board because my close friend has just been dx'd with Stage IIIA Nsclc, so I can transmit anything hopeful I find here. I was wondering can't they sedate him with pain patches. My friend was dying in a hospice from breast cancer and she slept most of the last few weeks like in a coma state. I would ask for some special pain management that does not sound right waking up screaming. My father was semi comatose and the most he did in his last hours was press his hand to his chest but they still made him wait for the next morphine shot and then he passed. I would definitely ask who ever is the medical manager for some help.
so sorry for Scott and all of you.
Donna70

star_light221 · 05-01-2008, 05:27 PM

thank you so much for your reply Donna
Scott passed in the early hours of this morning
They said no pain meds not even morphine,dilaudid,toradol or rocephin and another drug, could stop the breakthrough pain
I feel so sad and helpless this morning, like i could not do enough
thank you sweety
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teresa22 · 05-01-2008, 06:39 PM

Star,

I am so sorry for the pain and disbelief you are feeling now. I lost my Robert, my soulmate, my best friend and husband of almost 28 years to stage IV nsclc on March 7...it will be 8 weeks tomorrow. Robert passed away just 6 weeks after diagnosis very unexpectedly. I just wish I had 5 more minutes with him to tell him how much I loved him, BUT I just know that he knew that and he has told me that since....you will see Scott again and it will be wonderful. This is still so new to me but at least I can say that I know he will not suffer or be in pain any longer. I am still so numb and you will be also....but know he is in a better place.

I don't reply much anymore BUT I do check in everyday, several times a day and you will not find any better support. These people are great. You will find the board a good place to vent and deal with feelings although everyone is different. I wish you well and many happy memories of Scott

Many prayers and hugs,

Teresa