| | boyfriend's father is dying (what can i do to help?) *feeling overly responsible*
yesterday, both me and my boyfriend found out from his sister-in-law (not his parents) his dad doesn't have long to live. i believe it's only a few months. his father is a heavy smoker who suffers from COPD and he is very stubborn. he figures he will die overnight and won't quit smoking... i just know he is going to have a painful death and it will linger my boyfriend and his family. i can't help but feel so horrible for my boyfriend. i reminded my boyfriend how i'm there for him whenever he needs me. i brought up some ideas of him and i going out to the movies, bowling, and so on... if he wants an escape. however, i'm wondering if there's anything more i can do? maybe i'm being a little hard on myself, but i don't know what i can say or do ... it's very hard to see my boyfriend hurting since his father's death will be related to his dad's smoking habits, which my boyfriend viewed not as death, but as a "slow suicide".
"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."