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Old 05-03-2009, 03:34 AM   #1
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Old 05-04-2009, 06:19 AM   #2
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Re: I just want my husband back

Perbbles

your pain made you read the post in a skewed way -- I wasn't belittling your feelings I was trying to help you understand that the severity of the heart-pain that we all feel in the beginning will lessen with time.

My loss of 4 years ago just makes me come here to help others I don't dwell on the pain of everyday existence because its not everyday that i have the paralyzing pain of his loss.

He is in a much better place, happy, healthy and carefree. I know that and its what helps me. Through Him and my God, I was sent the love through another wonderful man who I enjoy spending time with very, very much.

My kids are healthy and otherwise happy although suffering through the stress of college commitments but otherwise we're doing fine, as I know you will be in the months, years ahead.

I did suggest that you keep a journal or write letters to your loved one telling them of the ups and downs of living without them. Possibly in the beginning you'll find yourself writing everyday but as time goes on, you'll see yourself writing less -- but reading back lets you validate how far you came in the grief recovery.

There's no time limit for grieving. And I apologize if you took what was written in a negative way -- I just try keeping everyone from jumping all over the place which makes it difficult to get the valued help we all provide one another.

Write often and let us know how you are doing.

 
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Old 05-05-2009, 04:10 PM   #3
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Re: I just want my husband back

pepples dont feel alone here. caringsister did the same thing to me. i havent been posting in awhile. she means well but sometimes i cant follow her. your pain is very important and yes i feel the same way you do. we cry out for help and then get post from otheres. they need to understand if we are crying out for help we dont need to be told they is others hurting too. we know that. everyones hurts are sincere. she likes to help but its her way. keep posting this has help me alot. until I got her post also. she means well. i think her message was just too short. sorry for your loss. disney world

 
Old 05-08-2009, 10:33 PM   #4
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Re: I just want my husband back

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i'm sorry for not responding but i will talk anytime you need someone else to talk to,,
i cant even begin to feel your pain or losing your other half,, as i still have mine, but the only one i have left is my mom and my brother,, everyone else in my family i watched go away,, and it is one of the hardest things i have ever had to go threw.. i sit back and often think how good my dad would have loved my two boys and how much they would have loved to know my dad. they never got the opportunity, the pain is something that never goes away, i find myself not trying to look when i go by the cemetary because i cry everytime i look. if i lost my other i would be so lost, it would kill our children as i know the pain of losing a parent at a early age,, a excellent dad at that rate anyway, i will be here to talk anytime you need someone, peebles i shy away from this part of the forum because of all the memories and as i here them they all come back,, but dont feel you are alone because i will be around and some of the other members need to STEP UP AND HELP SOMEONE IN NEED.

it does get easier till you sit and think about it, some days will be hard to muddle threw and somedays everything will be going great and a simular memory will sidetrack you and on those days i just want to be alone and dwell in my own self pity.

if you ever just need to chat just pm me if you have to

 
Old 05-24-2009, 09:36 PM   #5
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pepples come back. dont let one post that caringsister did keep you away. she meant well. just like me you took it to heart. come back we care disney world

 
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