Re: how do i tell my son his father is dying of cancer
It needs to come from you first of all, and you need to be blunt about it. Not in a cold manner, but you need to sit him down, and tell him what is going on. Tell him the truth, the whole truth, dont give him false hope because he will not be ok with that if it doesnt work out, and ask him if he has any questions. My husband went to work one day, and was killed on his way there. I did not want to tell my oldest son. Of course I had to. He was 6 at the time, and I called my pastor. I wanted my pastor to do it. He refused. He insisted that I be the one to do it, and he sat with me while it did it, and instructed me how. He said what I told you. Now, this year, my oldest is 9, and my father is dying. We live right next door, and we are all very close. My dad stepped in as his dad when my husband passed, and we are facing the same thing in the very near future. Last week we got some worse news about his condition and I know the end is comming soon. And I knew I needed to tell my son. So I sat him down, and I told him. Then I asked him if he had any questions. He had lots of questions, and they were not easy to answere, but I held my composure, and we got through it, and then we prayed. For me, the prayer allows them to feel like they have some control over what is so uncontrollable. We didnt pray for a miracle, but we prayed that his grandpa would be happy and comfortable and to give us a little more time if possible. We also prayed that his grandma be ok because this is going to be hard on her too, and we prayed that when grandpa does pass, that he is able to find my husband, and tell him how we are all doing. It gave my son a sense that it doesnt all end here, and that we will all be together again some day. He spent the next to days talking about it a lot with me, and now he is back to himself......for the most part. He wants to spend a little more time with grandpa which is hard because like I said, he is becomming very ill. But we do the best we can. I'm sorry this was so long, but that's how I've handled this. I hope it helps you, and at the very least, I hope your able to find the best way you can to deal with this.